Still a novice (2 extended trips in the past month to TJ), but to find what you're looking for you should probably get an AG, which tend to be more GFE. Some include Mexicolindobar and cumintj, there are others.
IMO the default with Bar Girls (BGs) from Hong Kong, Chavelas, Tropical, Adelitas, and others tends to be less GFE, especially if it's your first trip and first time seeing them. Really depends on your overall chemistry with them, your Spanish speaking ability, what you negotiate beforehand, etc.
Zona Norte for the clubs. Avenida Revolucion for more touristy stuff and there lots to do in/around TJ from what I gather as well. In terms of where to stay, you have a variety of options. If you're going to see primarily BGs, probably stay in a place around HK, so like Cascadas, Hotel Rizo de Oro, etc. Primarily seeing AGs, maybe stay at Hotel Ticuan, which I hear is nice and others will vouch for (I haven't stayed there myself yet). It's my understand that not all AGs will go to a Zona Norte hotel, so you might want to check beforehand.
Read the postings here for the past few months, I posted some pretty detailed trip reports on TJ.
Other more experienced vets will probably add their two cents. For a more active and up to date discussion regarding TJ, look at TJAmigos and ISG's TJ section.
GL