.........do your homework regarding the parties you wish to attend making sure they fit your comfort level.
(ie; cost, rules, etc)
Some parties are 'inclusive of intimacy' for which the fees are, shall we say, generous while others are strictly a social event with no P4P (in the party venue) with a much lower entrance fee.
Some parties are in private settings (hotels rooms, private homes) while others are in public venues (bars, rented halls, beach fronts).
Some parties include booze/food/maybe a show in the entrance fees while others have cash bars.
These parties are not for all for many different reasons.
I would also add from a hosts POV, please do as requested (typically listed in each hosts ads) for the best results/a good first impression.
Remember, you are asking permission to attend.
Being a repeat reviewer, other party attendee or site member does not grant you privileges to bypass each hosts individual screening process.
Your hosts are putting in an enormous amount of time/effort for these events.
And the most important aspect of hosting is assurance of all their guests continued anonymity and safety.
Good luck,
jhonn