Ladies - When attending an M&G, do you assume (dangerous word!) that all the guys attending have been screened thoroughly enough for you to make a "date" on the spot?

Obviously, I'm not a lady.  But I will say this.  Making a date on the spot is discouraged.  I screen pretty heavily for the M and G's that I host.  But I strongly discourage anything other than exchanging phone numbers, emails, etc.  The M and G is not the venue for anything more than that.

Bond

As a lady that has oly attended one M&G so far, I can say no. My screening procedure still remain in place and as the others have stated...it is a place to meet and exchange phone numbers or business cards etc..

While everyone attending is screened, that does not translate into a "buy" when it comes to a provider's screening. If you go in expecting that you will be "hooking up" you may find yourself disappointed.

The NYC Mixers are social parties with other people that share common interests, nothing more.

I screen heavily. EVERYONE at MY parties is a known quantity. What consenting adults choose to do on their own time, at a time & place of their own choosing, off the premises, is their business.

Screening for my parties and screening for a particular providers own sense of well being are two totally different things. Common sense alone says that a provider would probably want some time to check references or compare notes. Exceptions might be meeting a well known hobbyist with a sterling reputation ( like ME ! ) or having already checked references and the like BEFORE meeting the guy face to face for the first time.

But I haqve had a complaint from a lady that she did not hook up that night and thought it was a waste of time. Go Figure. Yes I screen every gent there and also say that it is a party to get to know each other only.

JimmyPW

...although I do look HOT in a thong!

Seriously, I screen everyone very heavily for mine and 85% of the guests I know personally so its a very safe environment for all but a M&G is just a cocktail party like any other with a chance to make some new friends and see old ones. It's not a bad idea to bring cards with your info to exchange with your new friends.



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Although guests are screened heavily and/or personally known, that does not mean a lady should bypass her normal process.
Many do....but they shouldn't.

Bond has always done a great job with his M&Gs!  He usually posts etiquette for both guys and gals.
My 2 florins would be, treat it like a cocktail party and keep the chat social get there name and email address and take it from there.  Lastly, BE A GENTLEMAN!!! Trust me you will go farther.

I know how well I screen and how stringent I am.  However, a meet and greet is just that.  I'd never encourage illegal activity to happen JUST IN CASE.  

and all ladies should always screen.  

First, I have never thought anything "illegal" would ever "go on."  To echo Vadhaman, what two consenting adults do or do not do is up to them.  Moreover, I imagine that I, like most here, have never parted with anything of value other than in exchange for the time and company of another person.  Nothing even remotely illegal about that.  That said, I view these events as social events where I have the opportunity to meet like-minded people where one can converse in a relaxed setting, exchange thoughts and ideas and, if you hit it off, contact information in case you want to meet in the future -- which could be later that evening if the parties so choose.  Not substanively different than a political and/or social fund raising event.  Of course, if the attraction is so strong -- as with similar political and/or social events -- I think it more appropriate to take that attraction to another venue -- the same way you would at similar political and/or social events.  Exercise social discretion.  But AtlMeetingOrg has a valid point as to complaints from some who do not make a new friend on the spot.  I guess the bottom line is that I view M&Gs as social networking events that should be treated as any other social networking event.  Apologies for the length of the discourse.

only Foxworthy can do that.  LOL LOL

In my experience, after attending dozens of M&G's, your best bet is to set things up in advance.  That way, the hosts of the M&G have plausible deniability, and you will be able to enjoy whatever afterward...

Some of the other sites throw meet & greets those I would be more worried about as some people arent screened.I would trust the m&g that Tasha throws more because she screens everyone.