One thing I learned a while back is that permission is, or at least can be, quite transient and even ephemeral at times.
The rule I attempt to follow is to always be alert for signs that permission has mysteriously evaporated. I suspect that sometimes girls think they are OK with something and then start to feel like they aren’t and don’t know how to back out of it. Even the girl may have no clue why her feelings changed. But they did and now we both have to deal with it. If I let this continue for long (which I did once and try very hard to make sure I never do it again) I run the risk of completely losing momentum (or worse) with the girl to the point that nothing can be done except to leave as gracefully as possible.
I try to make it easy for them to let me know when they aren’t OK even if they told me they were fine just moments ago. This has the added beneficial effect of making them relax. Because it makes them aware I care about how they feel as I’m checking in with them and giving them permission to change their minds at any time.
Most of the time they just look me in the eyes and I can see some of the tension draining from their face. Sometimes their pupils even dilate a bit. And they say “I OK”. The great ones follow that up with something like “fuck me hard”.
Every now and then they suggest a change up of some sort. And I make a point of quickly complying.
I do have to come up with lots of different methods of checking in with her in subtle ways. Otherwise, it can feel like I am nagging her. It’s not very hard (no, not that). A gentle caress of the cheek will get her to look in your eyes so you can see if she’s still OK. There are too many little things you can do to list here. But, hopefully, you’ve already gotten the idea.
Another rule I follow is that, if what we’re doing isn’t making her wetter then it is probably time to switch it up and find something that will. The wetter she is the more fun it will be. Always.
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