Some 10 years ago my wife talked me into getting a massage.  Tried many legit places.   They were all good and I left feeling great, every time.
I started going to a chiropractor that had no Massage therapists.   Finally I asked her if she new a good Massage therapist.  Get referred to a Asian lady.  She works for herself.  Best Massage ever!!!  Basically interviews me and says she really doesn't take many new clients.  She had a cancellation and text me.  If nothing else happens I have the best Massage ever.  Massages chest, stomach, and thighs.  Often knocking on the nuggets.  She tells me how stressed I must be and it's good to relax.  Afterward when I'm paying her I tell her how great she is, she says  she loves it and everyone needs release.  Today was my  third visit and she massages everything but the sausage and the sack.  All the while I'm laying there with the teepee at full height.  I'm like WTH.  Anyway nothing.
So for the more experienced amongst us, what do I do next.  No experience here

I am going to suggest that the odds of her providing any kind of sexual services, even just a HJ, are very low; and that furthermore, if you even hint at wanting her to perform some kind of sexual act in exchange for a large tip, she will show you the door and you will become persona non grata with her.

So, if you value her massages, and don't wish to upset that arrangement, look towards going to your local AMP where I'm sure you will get at least a half decent massage and a HJ, if not more.

 
There is even some chance that as she gets to know you, something might develop down the road.  I'd be intrigued by her use of the word "release".   Show a tacit willingness to become more friendly by trying to make eye contact, and smiling if she returns your gaze.   Use coded language such as saying you find her exciting to be with.   She'll get the message, but won't take offense.   Instead, she might say something like "Are you interested in anything else?"   That will be your cue.

 
It's a complicated dance.   Make sure you make all the right moves.

I am not as familiar with the massage transition to extras as mrfisher, so I'd like to ask a question. I'm pretty sure that the masseuse knows all about the reputation of that type of business, even if she, herself, doesn't provide extras. Do you think the OP can ask suggestive Qs looking for an alternative masseuse?  
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"Your massages are great, but do you have a friend closer to (some location) that can provide a similar service when I don't have time to commute here?"  or "Sometimes I'm traveling and cannot easily get to your office. Any suggestions ....?" or "Who do I see when you are on vacation? Do you have a substitute?"  
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But I would steer clear of asking, "Got any friends who provide extras, you know, like a HE?"  
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Watch out for them forks.

She may or may not know another gal who does massage.  If she does and recommends that person, then that person could be no more likely to offer sexual services than she does.

 
She probably does know the reputation of massage, but soldiers on and probably gets a fair share of requests.  How she handles them is the big unknown.

 
I recall sitting in the waiting room of a legit massage center listening to the receptionist deal with an asshat on the other end of the phone line who was probably jerking off while asking all types of inappropriate questions like:  What happens if I get a hard-on during a massage?   The poor gal deserved a purple heart for being so unflappable.

 
  The point is, there are plenty of legit massage places and plenty of clients who just want a massage, and nothing more.  If you happen upon such a place, expectations should be low.   I've only once been able to advance to first base at one of these places, and it wasn't by brute force but by cunning linguistics, and you can interpret that any way you like.

Have you tried "apologizing" for your hardon?   Some how bring the discussion to your dick. This is a low probability thing but out may be worth a try.   In my experience,  if you are going to get extras,  you are going to get them in the first appointment.

If you want the HE, then Find a AMP and get naked and act comfortable, like you've done this before and enjoy the ride.  

Have your cash ready in different denominations to cover the extra tip.

If you're still married, proceed with caution, and cover your tracks.

These tiny beauties are very addicting.

You might not ever want to go back to the "Less personal" massage places.

Good luck!

She is leaving for a vacation so asking about another would be possible.  May just be another Massage.
Well if it usually happens on first then I'm out, 3 strikes "swinging ".
I've thought about mentioning the teepee,  perhaps she'll make a suggestion.  I'll post again

Thanks

... points to this woman wanting to stick to massage.  She gets referrals from medical professionals and interviews new clients.  You've seen her several times and she avoids sexual touching (occasional incidental brushing can happen with a massage that's thorough).  Therapists are trained to ignore erections--they happen.    

If this therapist really does give you the best massages you've ever had, my advice to you is enjoy them for what they are and, as others have suggested, find an AMP (or an FBSM provider) who does massage-plus.  If you lose this therapist because she thinks you're acting like a jerk, you'll probably regret it.

I've seen an Asian massage therapist for several years.  I was referred to her by a mutual friend, so she trusts me.  She gives the best deep tissue massage I've ever had and knows all of my knotty spots.  A few times she's brushed the boys--incidentally I'm sure.  She's also sweet and cute.  And she has an SO and two kids.  She's told me stories about the guys who come in expecting more than a massage because she's Asian.  Once recently, she had to answer the phone during my session and I heard her explain to the guy that he needed to find some other place.  

Don't be that guy.  Know a good thing when you've found it.

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My chiropractor in LA had a great masseuse. Best legit massage in the world.  She moved to Seattle, and the chiropractor got a new gal.  HOT blonde. On y third massage, in The Chiropractor’s office, she did a HR HJ!  She quit a few weeks later...to become a dancer at a club!  

Had many legit massages since. No similar experiences.  

As to your masseuse, do NOT be THAT GUY!

i go to a legit place where i find myself in a similar situation, and I started self service, she continued the massage, never helping but helping clean up afterwards. Sexy.

Well still going and it's the best massage and that's all!!
Talked about tee pee she said it's natural and I'm healthy.  Anyway, I do wanna be that guy, but I'm not.
Thanks for the advice, it was pretty right on  
STMF

I can sum it up real fast, because I have been on both sides of this (client and provider). If you go to a massage place or a person who works for himself/herself (private practice) and/or is a certified massage therapist (CMT), he/she is trained at legit therapeutic massage and took a national licensing exam to be certified. If he/she is accused of and/or is caught doing any extras during a session (even maybe no draping?), even more than occasional accidental touching of the genitals, could get her license revoked. Period. You go to a AMP or similar spot, the therapist may be willing to go further (and/or is NOT certified...you may never know which), but you will pay for him/her for "taking that risk" (potentially a extra $100 or more!). The massage may still be good...maybe not. YMMV. You will almost never see a true CMT reviewed on this site or others like it because he or she covets their certification and the legit clients they have (or they work for a company like Massage Envy or a day spa) more than the extra money they might make doing extras and won't risk being exposed (or the accusation of such). That certification costs a lot of time and money to get and maintain. If they get busted and lose it...it may well be gone for good and career is OVER. Would you take that kind of chance (sexual harassment or worse) on your job? Didn't think so. Not worth it. If the provider doesn't imply they might do extras (like on BP and so on), and/or they indicate they are a CMT (including where they went to school or license number) in their post/ad...assume they will NOT do extras for ANY price and move on to someone else with less to lose, per se. Better that than being embarrassed by being kicked out of a session and blackballed for asking the wrong lady for a HJ on the table.

And they can do everything from HJs to, well, anything you can imagine.  I know this because I know several CMTs/LMTs who are also providers.  Some used to do regular massage and switched to p4p, and some still do massage therapy as their "day job".  The latter I know are typically UTR and have a small but loyal clientele.  All of these providers/masseuses I know are independent, and they're very careful with their screening because as you mentioned, being caught giving more than a draped regular massage could result in losing their license.