Hello Everyone, Just want to vent & share an experience I had this morning. This has never happened in my long career of being in the Rodeo. I won’t share her name as it may have been a rare one-time situation nor am I asking everyone to chime-in to be mean, as you are only getting one-side of the story. However I feel I am very fair, appreciative and an unbiases person in nature. And I don’t overblow stories.
Yesterday I contacted someone on P411 that I saw 5 years ago, I had also contacted this person weeks before COVID took hold in 2020 , but never got a response back. ( no biggie) , we proceed to set up a meeting for this Thursday. My text asked for “8am or earlier”, she came back with 6:30am and a choice of any 4 locations( Wash DC, Annapolis, Baltimore or Columbia) . I said fine with 6:30am and narrowed location to 2 places of her choosing . I assumed she picked 6:30am because of other meetings she may have as I was a short notice appointment.
She called and texted me multiply time to make sure I are coming in the morning, a mile out from the location , I encountered a police road block that required a 3-4 minute detour, which I informed her and got to the location 2 mins late. I texted for the Room number, at which time she calls me to say she is 10 mins late getting there. ( no biggie) , then I get a text that she hit the same Road-Block. She gets there 20 mins late and I can observe her standing out in front of the location calling me to tell me she was here. ( Note: she was dropped off, I assume by an Uber driver as he was still there waiting with the passenger side window down).
We meet outside and she proceeded to tell me we needed to go together to a CVS and get a Bank Card, as her own Bank Card doesn’t have the funds to check-in. At this time I have already postpone a morning breakfast from 8am to 8:30am. I told her I was not getting in the car with her and doing this. As it was, if I did , with the short drive to CVS, the purchase of the Bank Card with my money, drive back and check-in, we are now looking at 7:25am as the earliest best starting time with no more hiccups. I had already altered my morning plans once and she was hitting me with all this stuff and making me feel uncomfortable.
After a few minutes going back and forth in front of the location, with the driver idling in the car adjacent to us with the window down, it was clear to her I was not going to get in the car with her and drive to CVS, at which point, she raised her tone and started blaming me for all this. Saying I was the one that wanted and requested a 6:30am , etc, etc etc. and that she booked the place exclusively for our meeting. I point this out , as nowhere along the way was I made aware that we would have to do this and I was getting text messages/calls in the morning on my arrival status only to be surprised that she wasn’t even there and was going to be late ( without Detour) after I texted her I was here. Then to be hit with going to buy a Bank Card with my money beforehand ( Her future "Time-Only" service fee from me).
Odd experience that did not end in a win-win for either side, I am sure she occurred some expenses and wasted time, but I also got up early as well , missed a “work-out class” and still have minor Flushing effects from a ‘blue-pill” I took to help me along. Not to mention I was lingering in a parking lot for 50 mins waiting for my 8:30am breakfast meeting to start.
There were 7 calls and 9 text messages from her from start to finish in coordinating this meeting. On the first call, she asked for 50% deposit to one of those many apps. I declined as I have never used them. Note: nowhere on any of her Ads does she state that, when I asked her, she said he just starting doing this and has not posted it on her Ads. Yet she posts from time to time on TER to remind us that she is around. Certainly she could have mentioned the deposit there without too much difficulty.
I probably would not have reached out to her if I knew about a deposit and she would not have had to make this exception which lead to this bad experience in coordinating a meeting.
So my question is: Did I do the right thing to leave? I feel a little bad about it, but she was throwing a few curve-balls at me and failed to disclose logistics and timing issues and that didn’t sit well to begin a meeting like this. Been doing this a long time and don’t need to raise my blood pressure with surprise uncertainties that have never been the Norm in my experience. ( now it’s a FIRST)
By the way , she looks great. I am aware her pictures on her ad sites are at least 5 to 10 years old, but none the less, I looked forward to seeing her as my experience from 5 years ago was a memorable one that I was hoping to rekindle as she is a local gal . Bummed this meeting didn’t happen and its likely we will never meet again as she is blaming me for this.
