Why does it have to be one or the other? I am ambivalent. I could not care less.

People tend to be less guarded in those discussions, so it can reveal more about their true personalities (for better or worse).

...pretty good at being able to tell when some clown is trying to bait me and "ain't nobody got time for that".

make it more difficult to extend the illusion of the hobby to fellow members/potential clients.