Have you ever had a client walk through the door and think to yourself Oh hell no.   Im sure you see guys you would never walk up to and start a conversation.   How do you do it?   Just curious.

Great question....
 

I am in the business of customer service. I am here for you. I have met men from all walks of life and when they come through my door I am not expecting anything. Meaning I am not looking for a future boyfriend or husband. I see everyone as a right away new friend, and my goal is to make you happy and satisfied so that you will return again!  I honestly don't look at anyone and think, woah he is ugly. I care more about your personality, how you will behave and how we will get along. Providing comes naturally to me it's what I do. So when you knock on my door or I on yours, I am ready to go.  Now when I meet a man that I find attractive it's just a plus!! But looks aren't everything and there has to be more substance there.  

 
  On your end I understand you need the girl to be attractive to uou, you are paying. On my end its just not like that.

Speaking only for myself and not other providers, I haven't had that experience.  

I think it's because I came into the profession (less than a year ago,) with a couple of useful attitudes:

1. Personality trumps looks for me every time, by far. If someone is beautiful and boring, or gorgeous and stupid, I get turned off very fast. Conversely, if it's someone I wouldn't have considered, but who turns out to be interesting and smart, I am way more into them than I would be solely if I had an initial physical attraction. Some people call this tendency "sapiosexuality".

2. I find a very wide range of people attractive, including many people who others might judge to be outside the narrowly prescribed constructs of human beauty that happen to be fashionable at the moment. Conversely, what passes for "hot guy" these days doesn't do much for me- I'm not much excited by large muscles or defined abs. But I'm not totally un-superficial-  I find myself very attracted to guys in stylish glasses.

I've found these to be two very handy inclinations in this business. I imagine I've had a lot more fun than if I'd come into it having a very narrow view of attractiveness

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And it was directed to the ladies. We can do without the negativity and discouragement. I thought it was a good question and enjoy hearing a ladies point of view. Even if you don't.

question. Still I'll give it a go. I've never had the experience of being repulsed by a visiting friend's physicality. I've seen clients that embody a broad spectrum of races, ages, and body sizes. I find that how someone communicates with me and treats me has a greater bearing on overall attractiveness. Intellectual intimacy and compatibility, intentional communication, and respect are pivotal. When someone comes correct from initial contact, that's what entices me and gets me wet!

Hobbying gives us a chance to expand our acceptance of people.   We are all sensual and caring beings...

Very good answer.

One reason why I am suited to this line of work is that I am much more turned on by or conversely repulsed by someone's personality & demeanor than by their physical appearance.  If someone's personality or demeanor is bad enough that I would not want to be with them, I can almost always sniff it out in advance based on how they approach me via email, phone, etc.  And then I can and do decline to meet them.  Not everyone is entitled to spend time getting intimate with me, and I play on the side of caution and reject anyone and everyone who doesn't make me feel good & respected during initial communication.

If someone smells, I put them in the shower.  If someone has wrinkles, extra body fat, lots of body hair, etc etc... well, none of that stuff bothers me one bit.  If someone is condescending, rude, entitled, misogynist, mechanical, disrespectful... well that stuff is all going to bother me.

I sleep with such a variety of people in my personal life that I think I have learned to be physically attracted to any kind of person, if they are a good match for me in terms of interests and personality.  I think I put my interests out there clearly enough that I rarely attract anyone who is really not a good match for me in terms of interests.  I've gotten better at that over the years too.  

I think the ladies have put it all in perspective for you my fellow Hobbyist.And these are some of the most professional ladies in this hobby too. ....and yes they should be fully compensated.

even looking back when i was in my teens..
the guy in new kids on the block that i crushed on wasn't the same one as the guy from saved by the bell that i crushed on..

in my many years of having an open sex life, i have met way more men in the "real world" that turned me off then i have in the p4p world. only one time did i have to leave a date. the man looked as if he hadn't showered or washed his clothes and i just politely excused myself. we all have that right.  

i personally feel that if someone is narrow minded that they are only about the looks, then this isn't for them and they will soon fade or just always be struggling (in many ways).

a lighthearted view too.. once a man has a few beers, he gets beer googles. once a lady knows that she is going to be able to purchase her favorite thing, or go on her favorite trip, etc, we can get the same goggles.
xoxo

Very insightful. And funny.

Awesome reply ...heart felt and honest, from the beautiful sexy Sid. Been on my radar for a while now..can't wait.

Alyssa, you sound like the perfect date. I can't wait for you to visit the area again so we can finally get together.

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Very good reply also.

Honest - tha's real cool.