All I would say is lesson learned, Don't pay in advance.

Well bigvrern, since I didn't get to see her this time and she took off with my money I should be able to say it somewhere.  Unfortunately we don't have a blacklist like the providers do.
I know, I know, I know Beefeater.  I'm just pissed.
And hiding from the man, I do plan on saying something publically but I'm going to give her one more chance, standby.

Tommy..Tommy.. {sigh} {Shakes head} {Warning Non-PC posting }

Dear Tommy.

There something I need to communicate to you and it's kinda personal so please lean in close to the screen so we can  just keep this between you and me...  

No closer..  

Come on dude a little closer.



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Now that's is over with.

Paying in advance is not the problem. The problem is two fold.
a) The person you choose to trust with little or no indication to their trustworthiness.
b) You just couldn't help playing "White Knight" could you ?

I hate to say this about our industry, however it attracts people with no character, no honor nor conscience.  I hear your story every week about how some woman used a man's genetic propensity to want to be a hero and protect. Many women, not just providers go their whole lives taking advantage of this nuance every chance they get. Ten thousand years of evolution sometimes comes back to bite us men on the ass.

Now am I saying all women are like this? Nope.
Am I saying all people in our business are not trustworthy? Nope

What I am saying is you set yourself up for the end result. Now out of fairness to you, I have a strong suspicion she 'called you' because she knew you were a perfect "mark" for this play. I don't think it was an accident and if you out her I bet others will come forward and say.. gee I thought I was the only one.

Now whether she should be outed is a good question and perhaps a separated thread for  debate. I for one would love to know whom she is because this is the kind of crap I find reprehensible and stand against.

Let's be clear, prepay was not the cause.  I have several escrow clients who have money on account however Dreams has earned their trust and they 'know my value system'. You entered into a transaction without clear for knowledge of the other persons value system and history of actions. That is the actual screw up.

Good people always want to help, that is as it should be. I personally will be doing disaster relief work in Indiana this week. Why ? Because at the end of the day I want to not only believe in humanity but take some action to make it true! I refuse to become one of the soul dead who see's evil and mistrust everywhere and in every one. I'm in a business full if it. Either I'm getting it or reading if from clients or from providers. However, this is tempered with " my momma didn't raise me to be no fool" either.

This isn't the playing field for being, as Miss feisty Dreams Audrey would put it.. " A Captain save a ho "
because too many on this field will take advantage of you. Sadly it sucks because there are women who would appreciate your good heart, yet as in life.... The bad Apples ruin it for the good ones.


Lesson learned. Do it again and I will dress up in a Tutu dance over to your place and slap you with a toaster!


Lee Dreams

"Sine amore, nihil est vita"

Let it go, Dude. Lesson learned. If you had a established friendship and knew what type of person she is, I would have lent her the dough. But, I don't expect anything in return anyway. If it someone pays me back, I consider it a bonus.

as stated above by Beef you got played. Think of this as an expensive lesson. Gifts should only be to reward a woman. Unless she is your Mom or Grandma, never ever give a woman anything unless she has earned it. Heck, I have been burned so many times that I have developed calouses everytime a woman (civie or provider) starts to whine, cry and beg for money. Yeah, every one I have ever met comes up with an emergancy within a month. I have heard it all from "my dog is gonna be put to sleep unless I come up with $3500 for an emergency surgery" to "One of my clients gave me a staph infection and I dont have health Insurance so can you lend be $1500."

Years ago I may have fallen for the act but nowadays I just cut ties when a woman oversteps her boundries and starts the sob story act. Heck, I would not be surprised if she took the money you gave her and bought her abusive-loser boyfriend some clothes, weed, dinner and had a good laugh at your expense.

Just forgive her for taking your money. I say forgive because by forgiving it will help you get over it faster. Move on and go have fun with 6 other hotties.

Definately write a review.  And as most have said, it is a bad idea to to "prepay".   I known my lady friend for a long time (had several awesome dates) and I had no idea it be a cash and dash.  Lesson learned and moved on.