Next time you see a provider tell her that she is beautiful. You might be surprised, she might surprise you with a sexy new outfit or nice hair style. When women feel appreciated they bring out the best. Happy New Year everyone.

I wouldn't to escorts either.  

Many women do not know how to accept one anyway. It can get awkward.
IMO, it's best to avoid it.
 

I never say anything that I don't mean, but if a lady is beautiful, I have no problem telling her that.
And since I've been with a lot of true beauties, I've found myself saying this a lot, lol.
It's all part of the fun.
And if a lady has gone to the trouble of looking her best for me, it really should be acknowledged.
Providers are real women after all, even if we are paying them for this service

if they WANT to hear it from you. If a lady is beautiful she has already heard that affirmation all of her life.

So, if they are hearing the same thing over and over from guys that don't interest them it is, in a sense, ignored.

As far as providers, if she STOPS "going through the trouble" after a year should you tell her that too?

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The flattery is just being nice, yet truthful at the same time.
I go into these dates with a light carefree spirit.
I get compliments too, and no, I don't mind.

I'm just surprised that you could be with a beautiful lady and self-censor yourself from complimenting her.
Of course they've heard compliments before, but so what?  They haven't heard them from YOU before, and you are the one with them at this time.

One thing that has surprised me is that even these beautiful ladies can be insecure.  Within minutes after I arrived, one young woman - who I consider a 10 - said, "you haven't told me how I look" feeling insecure and fishing for a compliment.  She turned out to be insecure in other ways too, but it was stll a fun date.  Other gorgeous ladies have put themselves down when I complimented them, expressing insecurities with their bodies etc.  So don't assume ladies are so completely full of themselves that they wouldn't appreciate a nice word or two from you.

And no, insulting a lady for not looking her best is not the same thing.  If you react differently to her than when she WAS dolled-up the way you like, then she'll probably perceive the difference.  Or hell, without being negative, you could say "you still look great, but I REALLY loved your hair, outfit, etc. last time..."

This post isn't intended to be negative toward you, it's just that compliments are such a natural part of the ebb and flow of most of my dates, so it's hard to imagine what dates would be like without them - I was genuinely surprised that you would deliberately avoid these.  For ME, that would take some of the joy out of these experiences.

i dont really think about this at all. just answering a post. wtf??? just what I've seen over the years. I just dont go out of my way to do it.

if you read my answer I said "usually" not never

on occasion, I beg to differ but whatever...

btw, I have two sisters and am very close to two female cousins.

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...my replies in this thread were taking and understanding your words at face value.
We can agree to disagree on the larger point though.
We should all do whatever we feel works best for us and what we feel comfortable with

and society's attitudes.

 I will never forget the time I was watching, for whatever reason, the Oscars awards show. Before the show on the red carpet, a FEMALE reporter was interviewing George Clooney and his date. She asked HIM about what he thought of a current political issue. She asked HER what designer she was wearing and complimented her on how nice she looked. She didn't bother to ask her opinion about the issue.Hmmm?  

 

btw, you seem like a reasonable fellow. no offense taken.

 
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I have to agree with you or there is something wrong with me???

Unless the girl is a complete snob and high on her own supply then a compliment definitely goes over her head. But for any other woman it is always nice to hear that she is pretty or sexy or whatever. It is especially nice when a client compliments a woman because that will make her feel even sexier.  We meet as strangers in this business and one really doesn't know what the other is thinking. When you compliment a woman you break the ice, put her at ease and who doesn't like compliments?  

  Let me add: Don't compliment her if you don't mean it. I am not saying lie to the woman. Nothing worse then a fake compliment.  

  It's just a nice gesture if it's sincere. Just like holding the door for someone, smiling at a stranger and saying hello.

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