Many people think that giving a head is only about what “techniques” you use. And that’s natural of course; it’s much easier to explain to someone What to do rather than How to do it. Let me explain.
The brain is a mans biggest erogenous zone. No, I’m not jiving you. While technique will definitely play a big role in what you’re doing; if you want to learn how to give great head, you also need to learn how to stimulate his mind.
There are a couple of things that you should keep in mind, but since I know you’re just waiting for the “fantastic blowjob techniques“, I’ll just give you the best tip I can give you: Enjoy Yourself.
There’s NOTHING more universally attractive than a woman who’s enjoying herself. This, of course, applies to when you’re giving head as well! Make sure you enjoy yourself and make sure he knows that you’re enjoying yourself. It will definitely be a super-turn-on for him.
Don’t Skimp On The Foreplay
Another thing that most women get wrong is that guys don’t like foreplay. I guess it’s all that television that portrays most guys as these macho brutes that just want to “bone”. It’s not true though. It’s in our human nature to enjoy foreplay.
Anyone of you that has ever had a session of really good foreplay knows how incredibly erotic and stimulating it can be. An analogy I like to share when talking about foreplay is that the whole sexual act can be compared to a rubber band.
Foreplay is like taking that rubber band and stretching it out, adding more and more tension to it. At last when you decide to let the rubber band go, the release will be much stronger than if you didn’t pull it out.
The Secret To Great Foreplay Is This:
Two Steps Forward / One Step Back. You have to try this out for yourself. It’s blows my mind how simple but still so effective this is. The easiest way to explain is by giving you an example:So if you want to give him head, you might start kissing his chest, moving down towards his stomach and then his groin. But then, instead of doing the “predictable” thing – continuing towards his cock, you stop and go back to his stomach.Two Steps Forward, One Step Back. Do this enough and you’ll drive him crazy before you even start giving him head!
Here are some of my favorite tips and tricks when it comes to giving great head:
Use Your Hands. Some people think that if you’re using your hand you’re not giving a “real” blowjob. That’s completely crazy. I’d like to say that if you’re not using your hands, you’re not giving a proper blowjob. You can create a lot more stimulation and pleasure for your man by using your hand combined with your mouth than you can by just using your mouth. Also, it gives you another tool to keep experimenting with to keep things fresh.
Massage His Balls. It’s easy to think that a blowjob is just about his penis and your mouth. In the first tip, I made it clear that you should be using your hands as well. Here, I want to tell you not to just focus on his penis. His testicles are also really sensitive and if you play with them a little as well, it can add another dimension to what your doing. BE GENTLE.
Play With All Of His Body. Taking the last tip a step further, don’t restrict yourself to just his scrotum. It’s been said that the whole body is one giant erogenous zone. Give him a backrub, run your hands over his chest or his stomach, kiss his thighs and nibble on his nipples. Don’t forget that he’s more than just a penis.
Massage The Magic Spot. This is a personal favourite of mine. “The Magic Spot” is a fleshy spot located just underneath his balls, about halfway in between his anus and the root of his penis. Massage him there firmly with either two of your fingers or if you’re feeling bold, with the tip of your tongue, while you keep jerking him off. It will feel absolutely amazing for him.
Take His Hand. Learning how to give head is not just about learning the right “techniques” for the physical stimulation. Blowjobs, as every other type of sexual activity, consists also in large of a psychological aspect. Most men will enjoy it if you take his hand and place it on top of your head or on your chest as it displays that you’re really into what you’re doing, which heats him up even more.
Lick Your Way to The Top. This is one is one of my favourite blowjob tips. Start at the root of his penis, or even below his balls if you want, and *slowly* start licking your way up the shaft of his penis. When you eventually reach the top of his shaft completely swallow his manhood. He. Will. EXPLODE!
Look Him In The Eyes. The last tip I wanted to offer you is quite simple, but it’s something that again shows that learning how to give great head is not just about physical stimulation; it’s about simulating his mind. Guys love to watch while you’re giving him head, so if you once in a while give him long, horny stares, you’ll really push his buttons.
Deep Throat. This is a easy technique to explain but a difficult one to master. Essentially, you unlearn the gag-reflex and allow your man to slide into your throat.
A piece of general advice I like to give out to everyone that asks me for help is to make sure you lubricate his cock properly. All of these techniques will feel great for him, but they’ll feel even better if you’ve lubricated before you start; partly because it adds another level of sensation but partly because it reduces the amount of wear and tear on his penis. This is especially important if you’re using your hands to stimulate him (which you should).
End Game
Is that all? No, not quite.
Basically, here’s what you do:
Don’t Slow Down! There are many good periods during a blowjob when it can be beneficial if you change the pace, maybe do whatever it is you’re doing a little slower and generally “tease” him a little bit. When he’s about to come however, there’s no space for that. Whatever you’re doing, keep doing it until he’s arrived. If anything, go faster and harder!
Don’t Stop. When he’s cumming, a common mistake is to stop for whatever reason. Maybe you think he’s finished. But the truth is that if you keep going a little while, you can extend his pleasure and the length of his orgasm by a large bit.
Then, Go Slower. The tip on going faster and harder is valid all through the period when he’s about to cum. But just when he’s in the process of cumming, there’s a specific time where if you slow down to an almost slow-motiony pace, you can significantly prolong his orgasm. How long into his ejaculation you slow down is different for all men, and would be pretty difficult to learn from reading it. Hands-on-experience and some good old fashioned trial and error is recommended. Usually it’s somewhere between 2-10 seconds after he started cumming.
Swallow Or Don’t Swallow? Something that’s been a classic hot topic ever since oral sex became popularized in western society is the debate of whether or not you should swallow or not swallow. I would say go either way; if you don’t mind then definitely swallow. If it’s very hard for you, at least let him come in your mouth and then afterwards just spit it out in a tissue or something.
After he’s shot his load, his penis is going to go into a hypersensitive state. Most men prefer that you don’t touch the penis, especially the head, when just after his ejaculation. If you do, it’s almost going to feel painful for him. However, if you don’t just want to stop cold, you can always cup his balls with your hands afterwards. I prefer to gently massage the balls.....
I hope this helps......
EOM