Long time hobbyist though I rarely post or review much, I have settled into a nice "semi" retirement in the hobby--does anybody really retire? Haha.
I had to post because once a cautionary tale about, as a hobbyist wisely told me, "it's just an hour of fantasy, enjoy it and leave it there."
A friend of mine got into the hobby, and like a lot of us, got into the K Girl syndrome.
He was telling me a couple of months ago he really found a great one, they had great chemistry, a real relationship.
I told him don't forget, it's called girl friend experience for a reason.
Then he told me they were so close they were going bareback, and I told him it was not only dangerous, it was just not a good thing.
But he insisted it was love, who was I to tell him no, maybe they had made a connection.
Turns out he was paying her great tips, and maybe she felt the need to reciprocate with that added"bonus", as if that was worth it.
As usual, this great love affair was exposed for what it was, whenever they went on an "outside date", he was giving her money as she was telling him about her great financial woes.  
She stopped seeing him when, after a dinner date, he didn't have some money he said he would let her "borrow", as if she was really going to pay him back.
When I asked if he actually ever had sex with her without compensating her, he realized he had not.
Now he finds himself low on his income, and she doesn't see him anymore, because as she told him, "you are making it too personal."  
And he is miserable, he really thought he had found  
I have been doing this for a long time.  
Guys, this hobby is so fun, at least to me, because the girls are there to please you FOR THE HOUR.
I'm not saying it's not fun to be friendly, I have a couple of the girls that call me for an occasional lunch, but you have to realize, especially for the K Girls, they are here to make money. And hey, I do know a couple of providers who had teal relationships with hobbyists.
I would say 90 % of them or even more are honest hard working girls, but some see easy marks and will play you for all it's worth.
It's fun to joke around, but if one of them told me they loved me, I'd head for the door and not come back.
As the wise older hobbyist told me, it's all about the fantasy, leave it in the bedroom, because the reality is not so fun.
It is the world's oldest profession for a reason.
Have fun with it.
TG

-- Modified on 6/5/2013 9:22:53 PM

perfectly put forth, thank you, TG

Real nice post to remind people to just have fun.

Yep, be careful with that emotion of yours.  Kgirls are here to make money.  One of my regulars has a boyfriend and she just sees this as a job.  I also had another regular in OC who was dating an older guy.  She didn't really care for him but was willing to marry the guy for his money and opportunity to stay in this country.  You learn about these things if you stay with a regular long enough.  

DOUBLE AMEN!!!!!

Either you understand the game or you don't.  Every guy that  enters an outside relationship eith an escort  thinks their the "one" thats gonna break the mold.  

THAT is the problem with a lot of guys who want to move the hobby to a "relationship".  I have always said.. well sure we can move to a "relationship" if ya wanna pay for my kid's college... but I don't think money is a bad word and I don't think it cheapens the experience.  So if that is your motive in saying the "L" word to an escort.. that is a tad delusional.

I was real lucky to get a nice wake up call.
A well reviewed provider that I still see, she specializes in making you feel like you are special, the only one.
Once I saw her, she greeted me with a great DFK that led to an awesome session, pretty much up there with anything I have had. I was on Cloud Nine.
As I was leaving she hugged me and whispered,"You forgot to leave the donation, where is it?"
Made me realize, yup, it is a business arrangement.
I have never forgot that. And thanks to her for that.

One rarely has a favorite or ATF go bat-shit crazy for not getting her way or being "dumped", and then retaliate by damaging your car, home, other personal/professional relationships etc. Palimony is never feared, nor is unwanted/unintended pregnancy and subsequent child support.  

Great original post thhx for putting it out there.

Some more than others. Hard not to feel some connection though I would never cross boundries.

That would have woken him up....

No matter what goes on during your time with a provider everything
must be taken with a grain of salt. Even the "I love you" that you
will occasionally get. Everyone must understand that this is their job
and that  job is to do whatever satisfies the client within reason. Unfortunately  
their lives are based on lies. Lies to their friends and family and if you lie and
hide long enough it becomes a part of who you are. It's not that  they are mean
or deceitful people. It is just part of the reality of providing.
If the hobbyist doesn't understand that he is in for some major disappointments.
That's another reason for not seeing just  one girl and getting "stuck" on her.
No matter how much I've liked any one provider I never stopped seeing others.
It's like the old saying about men. The four basic needs are food, shelter,
pussy and new pussy and that's especially important in this business.

Cause you see all Black girls are...
All Jewish girls are...
All K-Girls are...
All mongers are..
And definitely all escorts are...

Echoes some of my own experiences, and DEFINITELY echoes my outlook.

Generalizations make thinking easy...life isn't easy. Do the math, people.

It's hard not to care for other people. I think the human element makes it so much more enjoyable, no matter the race, color, creed etc. I think we can pretty much tell who's considers it a business and who considers it business with friends.

"There are only 2 things that smell like fish and one of them is fish."

-- Modified on 6/6/2013 11:07:06 PM

The problem is when you start fantasizing.  The reality is you are paying.

-- Modified on 6/6/2013 7:36:03 PM

I've had very similar experiences as you and have no regrets.  Just have to keep it real.