My wife has turned gay.  She isn't interested in sex with me anymore.   She wants to try a sensual massage by a young woman.  She doesn't want anything nasty (she might want the provider to cop a feel though).  She doesn't even want full nudity, and she doesn't want me to be around during the session.  She is white, 63 years old, average build, not in the least overweight.   Does anyone want to do it or recommend someone?

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happiness without guilt now that she's being honest about her true feelings.

I'm guessing this didn't happen overnight, so you've probably been dealing with an unsatisfactory sex life for years.  I'm sure it's a relief that it's all finally out in the open.

I know of another couple that got divorced, and the mother of two left her husband for another woman.  So it happens.

I have a real perverse streak.  It turns me ON.  One of the few things Freud, Jung, Adler and all modern psychoanalysis agree on is that all living substance is bisexual.  My way of gratifying my own forbidden homosexual tendencies is to imagine my wife is homosexual. Then, when I do her I am doing a homosexual.  It's really roundabout I know, but we all have coping mechanisms.  Now it turns out she actually is gay, I want to WATCH!  So, I have to post on this board looking for someone who can do some innocent sexuality with a 63 year old lesbian!   And yes, it is hard on me not to be able to have sex with my wife anymore.  My blood pressure as shot through the roof from the chronic anxiety.  My only salvation is this.  But nobody is replying to me.  I need HELP.  

I'm guessing that the best way your wife can decide if she's truly lez/questioning or not is to start participating in the lgbt community, perhaps joining a senior women's group or something. Most gay women aren't preoccupied with youth like men are, so a sensual massage by a young woman might not confirm or do anything for her. Relating to her peers probably would. Lesbianism isn't just about physical and sexual attraction... it's about loving the bonds and communication women share.

Sorry it didn't work out between you two, but it's great that you're understanding and on board with it, even if it's understandably very stressful.