I recently had an issue with a girl giving a bad reference on a client. They client is brand new to the hobby & only had 1 reference. He had a great time & thought she did as well so he obviously used her as his reference. When I contacted her. Her first response was "He's great!". So I scheduled with him. I then started receiving more emails from her saying, things that were opposite to her initial email. This now confused me. So I told the client I was going to have to cancel our session. He of course was confused, just as much as I was. I then explained that his reference (the provider) had given me information saying that he wasn't necessarily safe. He then forwarded me all the emails she had been sending him, since I verified him through her. She had started emailing him, trying to set up a date. Also, expressing how much she likes him & wanted to see him again. After seeing these emails, it was obvious to me that she told me these not so nice things about him to detour me from seeing him. So maybe he would continue to book with her and not another provider.
My question is..... How do I prevent these types of situations in the future? Has this happened to anyone else?
BTW, He was fantastic
This has happened to me in the past as well.
It just comes down to simple jealousy.
That lady has no problem seeing other guy but its not ok for one of her clients to see another lady.
This hobby is about variety and fun and the possibility of connecting with someone.
If a provider puts a condition on her reference, then she is someone your should not bother with.
References are for safety not a commodity.
Yes although it has gotten better and the ladies work together much better now than in the past but still a long way to go. Unfortunately some don't get it that teamwork keeps everyone safe.
I could not agree more with you!
References are about safety and anytime a provider forgets that and tries to leverage her references for her own personal gain she's not only hurting the entire hobby community, she's also putting herself in jeopardy. I would hope any provider that did this would be quickly outed. References and white lists are only as good as the providers reputation.
Funny....I had the same experience a couple of days ago (from a classless/UNEDUCATED provider), where she forwarded a copy of my PRIVATE e-mail., to the CLIENT.....Verifications are PRIVATE...
Us Ladies e-mail one another, and HOPEFULLY always tell the truth....Whether the Gentleman shorted us on donation, was rude, not clean, oversized manhood, unsafe, smelly, bad hygiene, etc, etc....Those e-mails need to stay 100% PRIVATE....It is THEN up to the provider, whether or not she wishes to see the new Client, based on what she was told....Everyone has different experiences, no TWO are the same...
When I called her out on what she did, she was even more classless/rude/ignorant, by attacking my AGE., and "career" choices....LOL....Funny, last time I checked., SHE TOO was a provider!....Comical...Unfortunately, I had to BLOCK her from contacting me., as the Drama was High school...
Happy Holiday's, everyone!!.
Melanie Banks
xoxoxo
Posted By: amberadel
I recently had an issue with a girl giving a bad reference on a client. They client is brand new to the hobby & only had 1 reference. He had a great time & thought she did as well so he obviously used her as his reference. When I contacted her. Her first response was "He's great!". So I scheduled with him. I then started receiving more emails from her saying, things that were opposite to her initial email. This now confused me. So I told the client I was going to have to cancel our session. He of course was confused, just as much as I was. I then explained that his reference (the provider) had given me information saying that he wasn't necessarily safe. He then forwarded me all the emails she had been sending him, since I verified him through her. She had started emailing him, trying to set up a date. Also, expressing how much she likes him & wanted to see him again. After seeing these emails, it was obvious to me that she told me these not so nice things about him to detour me from seeing him. So maybe he would continue to book with her and not another provider.
My question is..... How do I prevent these types of situations in the future? Has this happened to anyone else?
BTW, He was fantastic!
Network & make a provider friend who is reputable & professional. I find it easy to ask for a reference from providers I know & have met at M&G's, etc.
Lot's of providers do not care they just want the guys $
I know how you can prevent the other provider from saying bad things about her customers.
Just tell us who the lying weasel is 
Of course we will see a hellacious cat-fight afterwards
The lady you are accusing, is a very well respected Escort, and told you truthful info on the Client. I have worked with her for a few years, and she is a stand up, classy lady!. I receive wonderful verifications from her, all the time.
The fact that you shared her personal verification reply (with the client), that she was kind enough to help you out with, is very poor etiquette, unprofessional, and breaks the privacy rules, between providers. You have clearly shown that you cannot be trusted with personal information, and that is quite Scarry!. Shame on you!.
It was also very clear how immature you were, when you were saying she was desperate for business. Absolute BS, as she is quite successful, and always the first to give a verification.
Hopefully the Gentleman reading, will take note of your ignorance, and think twice about handing out their personal information to you!. They do not need this unnecessary Drama, and trust us to be DISCREET!.
Peace out!.
KK*
No where in the op is the word "desperate" used. She just explained that the other provider was trying to keep the client to herself.
Never did the OP say that she shared (as in forwarded an email) to her client. She just explained to the guy basically "hey man, you know that reference you wanted me to use? Well she isn't vouching for you anymore". I think that's fair.
The crazy thing is after accusing the OP of not being professional and sharing emails Kayla says she just read them, meaning her "professional" friend just forwarded these "private" emails for her to read? Is that crazy/hypocrisy?
Please note the writer does not own any stock in AAPL, AA, or KK.
The emails that were written between the providers, is something you have NOT seen "Crazy Talk"/AKA "AA/OP., so YOU have no clue what is going on.
The "OP" DID use the word desperate, and she DID tell the provider (that gave her the reference), that she DID forward the e-mails to the Client. Of course she is NOT going to admit that on her original posting, as it would make her look unprofessional. Playing the victim, was her plan here.
She also was childish, and attacked her age. Did she post THAT?. Of course not!. LOL
The OP also lied, about the provider sending emails to the Client (after their date), wanting to see him AGAIN. I clearly saw the the email (from the Client), and HE asked if SHE would see HIM again.
As far as myself reading the emails?. Yes, she shared them with me, as we are two providers., NOT provider & Client. THAT is the difference. Providers share emails all the time, that is quite normal, in order to stay safe. Looks like you need to stay out of things, that you know NOTHING about.
Happy Holiday's!.
KK xo
Posted By: RedDogRoofing
No where in the op is the word "desperate" used. She just explained that the other provider was trying to keep the client to herself.
Never did the OP say that she shared (as in forwarded an email) to her client. She just explained to the guy basically "hey man, you know that reference you wanted me to use? Well she isn't vouching for you anymore". I think that's fair.
The crazy thing is after accusing the OP of not being professional and sharing emails Kayla says she just read them, meaning her "professional" friend just forwarded these "private" emails for her to read? Is that crazy/hypocrisy?
Please note the writer does not own any stock in AAPL, AA, or KK.
Dear super kray,
All I said was she didn't use the word desperate in her original post. If I am wrong about that then please tell me the line it is used in so everyone can follow along.
I am also really sorry about the attack on your friend. Sounds like she took a beating from AA about everything about her age, desperation, weight, and last years jimmy Choos. It must have been tough for her to hold her tongue and not say one negative thing back. But thankfully she has you. I can see you can keep thing cool and professional.
You know aa didn't mention any provider name in her post. Just spoke about a very general situation. And you say it was to gain sympathy? She came on here to play the victim in a situation no one knew about? Yet you jumped right in to defend yoursel... I mean your friend when really there was no need. Seems very odd indeed.
And why do I use an alias? Because maybe one day I'd like to get together with you and not have weirdness between us Kraykay.
Mozel Tov,
RDR
ps. I'm just stirring the pot
Kayla, You fail to address the fundamental issue....why did your provider friend initially give the gentleman a favorable verification and then follow up with contradicting negative information? No one on the board (other than you, AA, and the anonymous lady AA posted about) know who the client is, what name calling seemed to occur, or who forwarded emails along. All of those things are a dispute none of us have enough information about to appropriately comment on. However, you did not dispute the claim in the original post......so.....did your friend give the guy a positive reference initially and then contradict that? If so, why?
