Post your email so that people can contact you privately, since you can't read PMs Also, you'll get a vast amount of info on the FAQ for Newbies board. I'd try posting there as well, if I were you. Best of luck to you hun! xoxo

The white-list is similar to an "OK" on p411 - as far as I understand it (and use it) it's a verification that she met you & that she's willing to vouch for you. A built-in reference, so to speak.

I personally won't take a whitelist (particularly as many of them are more than 1yr old) as my sole source of info - I've spoken to some gents who expect me to look at the whitelist & accept that as good enough. My own comfort level dictates that I actually contact those ladies for a reference & verify the phone number... lots of people sharing accounts these days, so IMO you can never be too careful... and someone who doesn't want me asking around about them makes me nervous.

Then again, I'm paranoid LOL... the flip side of that is that I've been very lucky in that the vast majority of the gents I've met have been lovely to spend time with; but not every hobbyist has the time to wait for reference checks or other screening before an appointment. For that reason I can see why they'd want to use the whitelist as their 'passport'; free time comes at a premium for many of us.