Ever since the nonsense of March, making a connection has been darned near impossible. My white list status was apparently pretty strong, as I never had trouble making connections. The focus has shifted to references, which I understand, but I have tried to keep things discreet and not contact any of my previous faves, to protect their privacy. What’s an old dude supposed to do to find a connection in LA/SFV? (Rant over)

why would a provider that whitelisted you in the past year or so feel that their privacy is being violated by you using them for a reference.

Unless you're dumpster diving or the provider went completely UTR it shouldn't be an issue. Give your 2-3 most recent a call/text/email and just ask if you can use them as a ref. This is EXACTLY what makes P4P work for most providers and clients.

indie, as I am handing her the tip, I will ask if its okay to give her as a reference ONE or TWO times.  (More than two ref requests is a rude imposition on their time, unless you see them at least monthly.)  They always say yes.  However, I will give them as a reference within 1-3 months, not two years later.  I NEVER ask a new girl on the first session if she will give me a reference for another girl.  I think its tacky.  

If you are an infrequent hobbyist, you have to be reasonable about reference requests.  If you saw a girl one time, and never repeated, what incentive does she have to give you a reference?  Likewise, if it has been six months or a year since you saw her, how can she even remember you?  References are a courtesy from a provider, not a right, but you have to make it easy for them.  If your hobby pattern is one-and-done, and she doesn't expect you will ever see her again, she has no incentive to give you a reference.  If when you see her, you already have a name of who you want the reference for, so much the better.  She will be ready for the request when she gets contacted by the girl you named.  

 
Accordingly, I would recommend that you see a few girls that you have already seen first.  Getting in should not be a problem unless its been a very long time since you last saw them.  Then ask them during the session if they would mind providing a reference for you in the NEAR future.  Make sure you tip well if they say yes.  It implies that part of the tip is a good-faith deposit on spec that they will help you out with a reference.  Then its up to their integrity whether you actually get the reference or not.  If they are permanent SoCal girls, the likelihood is high that you will get the reference.  With touring girls, they don't always come through.  

Simply go back and see a few of those "previous faves" have a good time with them and explain that you are trying to reestablish credibility and ask them to provide a reference for you. if they really are "faves" they should have no issues doing so  because giving references keeps the entire community safe.  

 
I see you have/had 61 reviews I am sure at least a few of them are still working in the area and would love to reconnect. Think of it as a win win, you get to see someone old and then someone new. lol

 
I guess I personally can't relate as my P 411 okays have held me in good stead. I haven't had to provide additional references in four or five years.

Please just give references when asked. I'm reference friendly and hopefully others are as well.