I’ve been in the hobby for a while and I have had feelings for a provider once. In fact I stopped seeing her in 2018 and didn’t text or call or email for 2 years. I don’t think I was ever weird and I don’t even think she knows but I saw her recently and that Faken feeling came back! Fak! Lol  

O well I’ll enjoy it - at least it turns me into a poet, a deep thinker and a better lover. But I will not be weird or tell her because it’s weird I think.

but I'm realistic about the GFE fantasy and so I don't think of a "bond" with a provider going very far.  However,  if the provider makes the first move that indicates there is more going on FOR HER than just the professional relationship, then if I find her interesting, too, I will let down my guard and see where it goes.  Sometimes it leads to a real life outside relationship, other times it doesn't.  I have learned you can't find real love in an incall.  It only happens on the outside.  

and  boundaries were most definitely crossed. lol

 
Full disclosure here, I have dated a lot of providers over the years starting a VERY long time ago way back when I was a teenager and a couple of my GF's were part time casino girls in Las Vegas. I have never really thought it was any kind of big deal to date a hooker and I still don't see what the big deal is.

 
BTW I noticed you didn't ask about how easy it is for a companion to develop feelings for a client. This is a two way street you know and I have had just as many providers develop feelings for me as I have developed feelings for them.

but you know, realistically speaking, they are never to go beyond the friend stage anyway.  I have to keep reminding myself that as I spend my times with her.  Lots of providers I have met always have a solid wall of divider between you and I dont blame them.  But to me those are like visiting a business who is not interested in you after the transaction is completed.  
I feel they are just there for the money, which is the real reason why they are in this business anyway.  Better to protect your heart than fall into the glitz of moment. For me, I would like to be like a client that goes back to the same business over and over because I was satisfied with the service.  For the one, I currently have I have spent other times with her like going to dinner, shopping, etc. Makes me and I hope her as well, happy and enjoy the interaction.  I know, nothing real but I enjoy every minute and look forward for the next meeting.

bad feelings

so I went the other way.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iTKJ_itifQg

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YYDh3P2716I

Yeah, I would say in the years I was actively hobbying, I definitely had feelings for 2 providers that I would regularly see. They never knew, one in particular I had to keep my emotions in check. We had similar hobbies and interests, I assumed we had good chemistry. She has since retired and that’s probably for the best for me (and my bank account)

Yes

Yes. And we have talked about it, i told her she was my crush.. she thought it was cute... then after seeing her for 6 months every 2 weeks, she asked me out.. We went to dinner and it was nice no sex on date some minor physical contact hands, flirting, kissing.. I found that more intimate than the "Dates" in the bedroom.  She told me she liked me, and i told her i still had that crush on her. We remain friends and go out at times (she pays, i pay, we both pay) but i also remain a client.  

We actually talked about being more than friends but we are not in the right time in our lives for it to happen... so we remain friends/client/provider...  

What's funny is that our bedroom personas do not match how we look/act in public...

I guess I have been pretty lucky or just have a knack for making the providers I see feel comfortable, but it's not unusual for at least 60% of them to give me free extra hours and in several cases not charging me at all, after awhile. I've met some really cool women doing this and have started dating some in the past, but it never lasts long. I've found most providers have issues when it comes to honest involvements and romantic feelings, that's why many are in the business in the first place. Tragic childhoods, drug use, past adult age abuse, mental illness, the inability to be honest, alcoholism; for the most part, these women are not the type to be getting involved with even when they initiate going farther. They too might imagine it can work, but all too often they can't do it emotionally, crash and burn, and have to bale.

On two different occasions over the years I ended up in more of a boy friend/girl friend situation.  With one it didn't take long for me to realize I could not tolerate being around her much.  However, we still stay good friends with benefits when we can get together even to this day and even though she got out of this business a long time ago.  

The other.....well if our lives had lined up better it might have become a more permanent long term relationship.