In the civvie world, I was seeing a woman who was divorced after 10 or 15 yrs with a man she claimed was a dud in the bedroom. She had married young, he was yrs older than she was, she had been a virgin when they met. She knew nothing about sex except what she had learned from being with him, but he wasn't the affectionate or romantic type. He was not into kissing, so she never learned how. Bottom line, according to her, they didn't LFK very much, and she had never ever French-kissed.
When I went to kiss her, just LFK at first, she was lousy at it, there was no passion or excitement or any positive reaction at all. Every two seconds she stopped me to say she didn't know what to do, or that she was embarrassed, or that I wasn't giving her a chance. Buzz kill. After a few days of that, we finally got LFK done, so I tried to slowly escalate us to DFK. Absolute disaster. More stopping and starting, more pushing me away, more complaints, more teenage bs, she actually said it get like she was drowning to have a tongue entering her mouth. She kept trying to kiss by only opening her lips and teeth a quarter inch, and she would never try to put her tongue or lips in my mouth, said she thought she was choking. Well, pretty soon, I quit trying altogether. She told me that she had never given or received oral sex, so I knew that if she couldn't grasp kissing, I was wasting my time expecting a full-fledged sexpot. I bailed on her soon after that.
In the P4P realm, any kiss where the woman holds back qualifies as a bad kiss. Either DFK me or tell me no kissing allowed whatsoever, but don't tell me we can kiss each other and then your actions tell me you're not into it. A tiny peck at the corner of my mouth, or turning your head away at the last second, those are asshole moves. On, and by the way, don't say to me, "I only kiss my boyfriend" or some similar crapola like that. That's an erection-killer.