I am relatively new to the escort world and, well, my wife found out what I was doing...and i need to lay low for awhile. I am looking for advice on how to be very, very discreet. I already asked this on the newbie board but wondering if I can get regional advice from the LA braintrust. It's always good to hear from people who know the terrain well.
Do you have any rules or tricks of the trade that you go by in order to not be discovered? Are there certain times that are better to visit a provider? How often do I see a provider? I'm just looking for any tidbits, golden nuggets or codes people in Los Angeles live by...particularly people who have been caught once already by their partner. I would be grateful if you could share...
Donova
I just love reading TER for the entertainment value alone.
You do realize what you are asking for?
So here is my advice -
#1) DON'T be discreet - why be discreet, you'll just end up spending all your time worrying and being a wreck, so don't waste your time
#2) Before you spend $300 on a girl, spend $300 on your wife. Spend whatever you spend on your alter-ego spend the same amount on someone else (if not your wife, then your kid or dog or charity) - if nothing else you'll feel a LOT better about what you are doing. So if your budget is $2500 a year, your wife 'gets' $1250. yep, this is a hard rule to follow, but it beats being discreet - actually I don't think any male out there could seriously comply with this rule - the tempation to change the ratio is just too powerful 
you'll really find out by following this 'rule' just how big a desire you have to screw around on someone.
#3) Lie like crazy, yep, that's the next best thing.
but being discreet - nahh - don't bother
For God's sake don't sign a note on this board with your name.
Second, be patient and observe. For all we know someone with one review and who writes such a needy note could just as well be an SO or even LE.
Third, just chill, man. If you've really been busted after just one review you might want to think about whether this is the life for you.
Just because I only have one review doesn't mean I've only been with one provider. I just don't like writing reviews and I wouldn't have written one to begin with but made a promise.
I would like to continue doing this, and it seems if there are people out there who have been doing this for a long period of time, they must have formed some kind of system. At least the ones who aren't in an open relationship.
But I will be patient and observe for now...by necessity I must
the best advice is to get a friggn divorce.
life is too short
liberate youself
1 st
dont ever tell your wife--- nvr get the need to come clean
2nd
get an email that you will use for this hobby
3rd
see me right away
The evidence you leave on your computer is most likely what will get you caught. Goggle Truecrypt. Download it (free). Learn how to use it. And hope your wife isn't smart enough to install a keyboard tracker.
Better yet, spend $300 on a cheap laptop, protect it with Truecrypt, and never let anyone else use it
Keep everything password protected. Blame it on sensitive business material to to Privacy Protection laws. "Sorry hun, its all the damn government regulation" . I can't risk it.
Get a separate cell phone under a phony name. You can do this easily. Do 'pay as you go' as your payment plan, i.e. just buy the payment cards - with cash. Erase the evidence on the phone after every encounter.
I'm guessing this one only works for the JPL crowd, or anyone else who needs a security clearance but I like it. Have you actually used this in practice?
Anybody with access to Social Security numbers as a part of their business is supposed to have Safe Harbor protections against misuse of sensitive data or unauthorized access. I believe the medical field has protections, as well. Pretty much all those safeguards are BS as the hackers get into corporate databases all the time. I actually had full identity theft about 1.5 years ago and I am pretty safe with my personal data. It makes for a very good argument for having a private "work" computer and phone. My SO knows I don't share personal data about business dealings with people we jointly know, as it is my fiduciary obligation not to. I am not to gossiping type either. Makes for a good cover.
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1. I do everything hobby related on an iPad using the Safari privacy setting which keeps nothing as it deletes history upon closing of app; and there is nothing suspect about a password being needed every time you turn it on as iPad's move around a lot with you.
2. IPhone ( or smartphone) with an app called 'Burner'....
Best advise...Stay organized and never scratch out phone numbers or address' on paper....learn how to clear history on your cars GPS........and yes a separate email account.
And most importantly....if it doesn't feel safe don't do it
Here what I do, get a seperate cell phone. Tracfone is pretty damn good. Have a change of clothes or underwear in your car? You may not be able to smell the scent of a women but your SO can. Try to hobby several hours before going home, that rubber smell and taste will stick on you like glue. Try to take a shower right when you get home
Thanks everyone for the solid advice. I will do my best to heed it. If you're interested, one person clearly had a lot to say on this issue. That person's e-mail is below.
Donovan
"first off, once caught, lay low for a while & never repeat the behavior which got you caught. Seeing a provider is WAY different that an affair... affairs are emotional & have strings... and are on going... seeing providers is NSA. No strings Attached.
Do not change your schedule. Over time try to loosen up your schedule a little bit. Lots of guys only hobby when they or wife is out of town.
Once a month is quite doable... no patterns... random. I like the midday to early afternoon time which fits my schedule.
Never involve others as a cover... too easy to get tripped up... and risks an ex-buddy getting drunk or pissed off... need I say more. Activities, workouts, gym, golf... must make sense for YOU. You might want to develop a hobby or interest she doesn't share but which takes you out of the house some. Even going for walks in different locations like parks further from home... for exercise... but the catch is you must really do it MOST of the time.
Building model planes would work too if you have to go to hobby shops & hang out with radio control freaks...
Take up wood working... with many visits to home stores...
Just get out of the house. Have other things to do than go straight home!
I increased my spending money from each check by a small amount... which I accumulate in cash (no ATM trips to link to my absences). I refill my wallet daily from my sock drawer... but my play money is well hidden somewhere else. Any excess in my sock drawer become play money with the next check & is moved.
Don't use your personal cell. Ask Tiger!! Get a Hobby Phone. Turn it off when not in use. Hide it very well.
Don't access adult sites from work or using company equipment (unless you own the company & can withstand the heat when discovered.). Don't use shared home computer with others in the house. Set to delete browsing history on closing or use another browser on a thumb drive. NEVER turn over a running computer... Oppps, accidentally shut it down. Use an over write program like CC cleaner often.
Don't use your regular email... or an account linked to it.
Wash face, hands, privates before going home... women can sense sex smell even if they don't realize it. Use the same soap. (Some guys shower at gal's place or gym) Don't go straight home... wait for the high to pass before going home.
In short Don't Leave Tracks... If you want to enjoy long term... you must keep under control
..and that sounds like fun?? why even bother?
you just described a horribly unenjoyable existance...IMO,
but to each their own
It`s not for beginners yet you have to start somewhere. You have to apprentice and mentor with someone. You fucked up already. It`s like any trade you have to learn and gather experience along the way. I would lay low for a long while because she will never believe you again, ever. You built a house of cards which fell down and you have to start over but you got a long way to go. Good luck ....you`re gonna need it.
why use something that might give you away??
Posted By: 92nissansentra
I am relatively new to the escort world and, well, my wife found out what I was doing...and i need to lay low for awhile. I am looking for advice on how to be very, very discreet. I already asked this on the newbie board but wondering if I can get regional advice from the LA braintrust. It's always good to hear from people who know the terrain well.
Do you have any rules or tricks of the trade that you go by in order to not be discovered? Are there certain times that are better to visit a provider? How often do I see a provider? I'm just looking for any tidbits, golden nuggets or codes people in Los Angeles live by...particularly people who have been caught once already by their partner. I would be grateful if you could share...
Donovan
and don't pay at the hotel parking with a credit card.... damn thing cost me $25 and I didn't have it...
There are only two ways to lie successfully, and they both involve telling the truth:
The first way, is to tell the truth, but only part of if.
The second way, is to tell the truth, but to tell it so unconvincingly that the other person is certain that you are lying.
Anything else is destined to fall, like a house of cards. The question is not if, but when.
all again for the sound advice.
