I apologize for my more ignorant fellow hobbiests who have not figured out that this is first and foremost a business relationship and both that neither party is obligated to meet with anyone.

Being required to see someone just because he is Whitelisted is the same as my being required to book an appointment with a lady that I talk with at the Meet and Greet.

We all get to make our own choices....that is what makes the world go round.

"We reserve the right to refuse service to anyone"
FINITO

Just because you have V.I.P. or are whitelisted on TER does not automatically mean you can see whoever you want.

Us ladies still have the right to pick and choose who we want to meet.

I just received this PM: "I am going to start posting all over the place that you ignore TER whitelisted VIP members."

Also, please understand that VIP helps you. It is not a form of reference. Atleast not for me.

There are plenty of Gents on TER that I have whitelisted, but there still may be a provider that may not want to see you for whatever her reasons may be. Race, weight, attitude, age, exc...

Nat

Niceguy could not have said it better.  There is far too much arrogance in the hobby that makes guys think money says it all.  C'mon guys.....chivalry should not die.  Behave!

I couldn't agree with you more Natalie. Whether we all do this this for choice, fun, or business, you are free to choose as you please and your pov is most heartily supported.  in either case, forcing this definitely takes the fun out of it.

O2

Yes, each of us gals as our own screening process or not.  For me just being a TER VIP is not enough.  Guys I ask you to consider this....  Would you let a complete stranger into your bedroom only knowing a "Boardname"  from any broad?  My safety is my number one concern.  Making sure you leave with a big big smile on your face is my number two concern.

Whoever you are, you now have about a 0% chance of ever seeing Natalie.

Absolutely, Carla, you are right.
Although Some Ladies despise seeing TER VIP's as they might reflect the truth in their reviews and ruin some ones record!!!!! Fortunately, there are enough providers who do everything right, so Dude, call someone else, forget and forgive.

They can't distinguish between demonstrating assertiveness vs. entitlement. Women, often find demonstrations of assertiveness, by a male, attractive. However, there's nothing attractive about demonstrations of entitlement.

Of course, this is true when the tables are turned

Nat there is always more to the story! First I respect your right to pick and choose.. No problem with me there but generally before a gent contacts a lady he does a little home work so a courtesy of a reply would be appreciated even if it was to say no thanks. Usually my first contact is to see if you are even interested usually the mention of TER status should make you realize I am serious and CAN provide references! I could be wrong.  If not, a reply of no thanks is the proper RESPONSE!  Step 2 would be to provide references! I really respect your time as I hope you do mine so I do not want to bother my references with unnecessary calls if you are not really serious either.

Recently I met a lady who asked for references after our first contact, I had to give her over 10 before she found one she knew. Fortunately we had a provider in common. In another instance one provider would only accept Hx references then got very rude because I did not have Hx, I found her on CV.

Now for me, I like you to have some references too! This means reviews, website and email. Many ladies do not have reviews or emails that advertise elsewhere! I will not waste my time with them but I am being more tempted because of the "non" response of the more highly reviewed ladies! No response is growing at an alarming rate!

not sure what the big deal is.   The TER VIP claims you ignored him. Either that is true or not.  He then said he would post that.  The fact of the matter is that you have brought it to everyone's attention when you posted it.  Who cares... See whomever you want but stop complaining.

No one has the right to threaten any one. If some one has done this, I suggest you put their name in open so they stop doing that and others know what kind of a person they are dealing with. It is good for the community to know these people and for providers to be aware not to see this person, whomever he is.
Provided everything is disclosed, not just the story from one side...........
Having said that, some providers are known to be picky and reject clients without proper due diligence, but still it is their right to do so if they wish, and perhaps they should also be singled out and not contacted any further.

WELL PUT!!!!!!!