Yes, I Would Allow Shaving.  

I would allow shaving from a partner I was very comfortable with, like you, Ashley.

If she was gonna wax me I'd have to know she was experienced. An incompetent waxer can burn you or cause tremendous pain. Remember THiS guy?

But only shave face and trim down there. Actually shaving of the body is not manly in my culture, I heard a guy say.  

It was not only at the request of a civvie GF, but she actually did it for me as well.  

I'm more comfortable, and probably more efficient, doing it myself.  If I let a provider do it, it probably means I would be sporting some wood, which raises the possibility of some kind of accident or disaster.  

Yes I'd let her shave. No on the waxing!

waxing gives smoother results