i have a question to my non korean speaking hobbyiest out there.  i was wondering why non korean speaking hobbyiest try to date or romance these korean girls when most dont even speak or understand english?  same for i guess other nationalities such as thai or chinese girls.  

not that the girls don't appreciate it.  and all the presents or gifts that you guys buy them.  but i don't get what you get in return?  i mean you still pay these girls for sex and still buy them gifts.  what do you get in return? its definitely not communication.

when i was with my ex provider GFs, they would always get these calls or texts from their regular's.  sometimes to say hi or make sex talk.  and im just sitting next to my exs at those times and they talk like they are in the stone age...."me fine"  or "yes, me like you" or "ok..you ok too"  or "yes me love you so much".  and i just sit there laughing my head off and my girl is looking at me telling me to shut up and saying part of job to keep the regular coming back.  

and i ask her do you even understand what the dude is saying and she says most of the time no.

and same for the girls who don't have BFs like me.  like i was at my girls apt and her provider roommate got a call from a client and she talked like she was retarded.  and said she didnt understand most of what the client said either.

so i guess i don't get why all the effort or money are you guys spending on these girls?   almost all go back to korea anyway so whats the point?  is it the possibility that they might stay for you?  then thats easy.  offer citizenship and money.

would love to hear any opinions.

thanks

I'm confused. You have a Korean gf/provider and you are asking all these questions?

to be "Lost In Translation." After all, most of them have SOs at home, and they are fully aware of what she is saying, and rather not hear it. The difficulty in communication can enhance her mystery, and his fantasies of her.

you pay them not to speak...or as Chili Palmer would say..."The less said the better, if that."

DD

some hobbyist are morons. maybe they think the girls need a green card and hopefully these girls will fall in love with a fat, ugly, and hairy non-asian.

Like someone else pointed out, you're "dating" a Korean provider and you're asking these questions.  I sense a little self-righteousness...you have contempt for these guys but basically you're mixed up with them too.  First of all, why even get mixed up with them?  A few of them have suggested going out, but I always smile and brush it off because first of all, you do not know what they're mixed up in or their motives.  I think you have much more to worry about then other guys.  To have a provider girlfriend who has other provider girlfriends.

Starts with s and ends with x. This applies to guys in general. You state that "...you still pay these girls for sex..." Well, when you get a (provider)GF, you DON'T pay for it. Also, for hobbyists, it's satisfies our egos and fantasies - getting a hot looking girl as a "girlfriend". In the "real world", we wouldn't be able to get (pickup) girls that hot. Hobbyists aren't looking for a relationship or seeking someone who is compatible in 29 dimensions.

Well, I don't know from personal experience, but I would guess that it is for the same reason that a guy initially pursues any girl - namely, for the sex.  In this case, the guys know that the girls already offer it up for $, but they are hoping that they can eventually get it for free; so they try to work it however they can with gifts, texts, phone calls, etc. b/c of the obvious communication barrier.  Maybe they are hoping that there is truly a possibility of a future with one of these working girls.

Actually, your post brings up another obvious question: why do you date these K-girls?  As you said, "almost all go back to Korea anyway, so whats the point?"

Personally, I don't really understand the appeal of dating a provider at all.  Why not choose to date a beautiful non-working girl?  That seems to make much more sense to me.


PS - I thought the whole point of seeing providers was b/c of the whole no-strings-attached aspect.  Actually dating one of these girls would bring in all those issues and then some.


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so my question is.  how do you non korean speaking guys expect to get these girls?   like i stated in my first post.  these girls dont even understand your english so what is the point in attempting to woo them for free sex?  or how will you even woo them?

i just don't get it.

im not saying its wrong or right to date these girls.  all i am asking is if the girl doesn't even understand your english what is the point of attempting to woo them?  or how will you woo them? to date them.

it just seems like these non korean speaking guys are wasting their time and money.  for nothing.

im not saying theres anything wrong or right about dating these girls.  all i am asking is why or how do non korean speaking guys expect to win these girls for a date?  they don't even understand your english.  so why are these non korean speaking guys spending the money and time for a impossible chance?  

if they are really into the girl then just offer the money and marriage and get it over with.

i just don't get it.  i see my current GF and my exs with all these texts and calls..and they don't even understand the texts or the calls.  but the guys keep  giving them gifts and such.  for what?  so i can eat the chocolates or use the perfume or take the flowers to my house?

if thats the case then keep them coming i could use all the free stuff.

I have started seeing Korean providers in earnest recently, not because I have a fetish for them.  It's just that I find the the ones providing to be attractive and they do provide stellar service for the most part and all for a modest donation with some as low as $220.

Also, it seems hard to not read a review of a Korean provider.  I've clicked on random new reviews on different pages several times as a test and 9 out of 10 times the ethnicity is asain.

Yeah, I went off on a tangent a bit.  It's never occurred to me to try and date one.  Though recently one that I met wanted me to take her out to the beach and what not.  She made me promise that I would and I said yes. But, we never exchanged any information, just body fluids.  Not sure what that was about.  

If there was some mutual connection between myself and a provider I would consider seeing her out once or twice and go from there.

Stating the obvious up front, that there is nothing wrong with these ladies, anyone trying to date a provider who doesnt speak their language is probably seeing providers for all the wrong reasons in the first place.

Trying to make a provider 'like you' for free sex is just dumb and usually ends the way you describe. With them getting taken advantage of by a girl who is smart enough to recognize a sucker..

I have given gifts on occasion to providers (beyond tips). As an example a lady I do like is interested in wine, so I gave her a bottle of wine I thought she would enjoy. The reason? I thought she would enjoy it and wanted to hear her opinion of it.

I've had providers offer free stuff before, and I havent taken them up on it (the "you don't have to pay every time" thing). Honestly, its a lot simpler when you pay because while I do enjoy their company while we are together, and may like them as people, I am really only looking for sex and want to keep it simple. Doesnt mean we can't enjoy our time together beyond the sex, but I like to keep these relationships simple.

I agree with you, I have spent many years in Japan and am fluent in all aspect's off the language and have a decent command of the Korean language. But to think these women are doing anything but trying to keep a good thing going is sort of naieve. They are very attractive and very accomodating to say the least. If you want any part of these women I could not agree more the chance at citizenship and money that is the key, there has to be a trade off.

I wanted to add that I love these girls for what they are.

You compliment them, act like their BF, ask for their phone #, and go from there. It doesn't work with all girls, but it does with some. All of them understand at least a little English. How do you think American servicemen were able to get wives/girlfriends when they went overseas to Japan/Korea/Vietnam?
What don't you get? Guys have a sex urge (that's why we're in this hobby) and if we think we can get it for free, all the more better.

but I didn't notice whether or not you said you spoke Korean.  If the answer is no.....

you really think those military guys won those girls with their charm and love?  like i said before all those guys and current guys have to do and did is offer citizenship and money.

im just saying instead of doing that why are the non korean speaking guys trying to romance these girls with gifts and calls and texts?   the girls don't understand what your saying.  what little they understand is useless.  its stuff like "me love you"..."me ok".  that level of communication is going to win her love for you???

the odds of you non korean speaking guys winning these girls by romancing them are worse then winning the lotto.  if those odds are still worth all the money and time trying to impress these girls then go ahead i guess.







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I'm not Korean, I speak retarded Korean.  And I've dated a bunch of K-girls.  It helps I'm young and handsome.  But you know what?  

I won't ever date a Korean working girl again.  Will I dangle some around just to have freebies?  Sure.

These Korean girls are good looking, but have nothing else going for them.  They are horrible at managing their lives, always in debt, usually smoke drink all the time.  Other Koreans look down upon them(which is pretty sad).  They are usually immature and have self-confidence issues too.  My ex was the most gorgeous K-girl, but she thought she was ugly.  Lotta the girls have broken families as well.

Guys want to date these girls for freebies.  There are some guys that are lonely or losers and can only get girlfriends through hobbying.  That's unhealthy and leads nowhere.

My question to you, dancebbq, is why are you in serious relationships with these K-girls?

I used to hobby so much and got to know the working k-girls, owners, the business.  And than I realized this is a losers world. Play with the k-girls, don't date em.  Unless you like insanity.