Background....... I was going to go see my ATF who is very well known in the Los Angeles area. I have seen countless times. Rain sleet or snow I was always there when I said I was going to see her. She had even canceled and rescheduled on my more than once. The one time I canceled on short notice she sent me a text telling me to never contact her again.... I respected her wishes and then hours later she texts me again saying why no response and I am a joke etc. The reason why I canceled is because I wasn’t feeling well. After over two years of seeing the same provider she cut me off just like that. That was pretty disappointing for me. My question to everyone is, is this ok? I feel like I built a solid client, provider relationships.
no heart brokens in this. Ask her you want to provide me yes or no? She says no, OK bye. She says yes, do whatever you think.
Drop her and move on.....
obviously after all that time you were just a wallet to her . most ladies appreciate a respectful regular. i have had to cancel last minute with a regular lady and zero hassle, they understand things happen and look forward to rescheduling soon. you will find someone better soon i bet! although right now is a tough time but hopefully by summers end.
Well, it’s an old joke, but it’s worth repeating.
The reality is that she may have been your ATF, but you were just her ATM.
its easy to tell up front when a provider is BSC. Other times they can pretend to be normal for years, and then they do something that tells you they are, indeed, BSC. Its also especially for a girl you really like to fool you about her unstable mental state, because we tend to blow off some of the red flags with a girl we really like. I've had a couple of regulars like that where I didn't know they were a little "off" until after many visits. Better to know now and make a clean escape than to go back begging her to see you again.
You don't have to tolerate this kind of unreasonable behavior. I called to cancel one time on 30 minutes notice from the scene of a car accident I was in ON MY WAY to the session. I texted her a photo of my dented up car, and she gave me no grief about it at all. On the contrary, she was very consoling and concerned that I wasn't injured. Had a great make-up session a few days later.
That’s more so what I was expecting. She has canceled and rescheduled me before and I never make a stink about it. Just go on about my day. Oh well.
And we seem to know a few of the same ladies, so I'm trying to see who might have the" juice" to kick you in the nut...hmmm..yeah I can see her doing this......lol
Anyways, now you have to pick your nuts up, insert with whatever dignity you have left and move on.
But like a prior poster noted, you were just an ATM to her, nothing more.
Move on.
Haha. Well I can say i never wrote a review for her on here. It’s a crazy world we live in.
But you read it right? Shocked was probably the best word to use. It’s is a business after all. I got fired lol
...She may have wanted to show you that she's not dependent on your "countless" visits. When she told you never to contact her again, she was actually expecting you to do just that - contact her again begging for forgiveness so she can prove to herself that she has the upper hand in the client-provider relationship, that you need her more than she needs your money.
You "respected her wishes" and didn't contact her which really pissed her off. She had backed herself into a corner, expecting you to come crawling back. When you didn't respond because you simply took her at her word, she lashed out at you asking why no response and calling you a joke, etc. In reality, she was mad at herself for overplaying her hand and expecting you to grovel and beg for forgiveness.
I don't know how long it's been since she "fired" you, but it's possible that when she starts missing the steady money you provided, she'll reach out to you. Then it's up to you if you want to go back to that craziness.
i think BigP has a valid point .. she might have thought you would come back begging and that her pussy was one of a kind and then find ways to take advantage of you.
bottom line we have all have variations of these events, it comes withe hobby .... one just has to learn to not take it seriously and move on. its easy to confuse sex with affection ... one has to learn to separate the two. i have also been burned by a long time lady or two. of course there are many who are wonderful just have to keep an open mind that things can change in a heartbeat.
I think you are definitely on to something there. The one thing I enjoy with a good provider is no drama. I know it’s a business and all that but for the time I’m there let’s have a good time and move on. One of the main reasons I do this is not to receive texts from a someone asking me why I don’t respond after they told me never to contact them again. If I wanted that I would be in a relationship. Not what I’m looking for just seems like a bad business move to me. We could have easily rescheduled. Oh well.
It wasN’t right for her to treat you like that.
I hope you can find a new ATF and move on.
Lick Lick,
Ashley
are like that. when you start seeing them regularly, their attitude changes. I have seen ladies that the first visit was awesome, and then as you start seeing them more, they take it for granted. This however isn't the case with K ladies though. Seems like they have a routine and they stick with it for the most part regardless of how often you see them.
I am almost certain there are other providers than this one. Search diligently, and you may just be able to find one. Good luck. (Sarcasm Alert)
So this is an older post and I realize I'm late coming to the party but... I'd bet money if you call her again and set up the appointment in a couple of months she will be the same old ATF you have always enjoyed. You probably caught her on a bad day and she didn't even realize it was you. She knows you because she recognizes your face but voice, name, and definitely phone number, all that shit blurs when you see hundreds of people. It's not personal, but the fact that it has affected you this way should make you reevaluate when you're putting into this emotionally. Would love to hear how it all worked out for you bro.
Now that the surgery was successful and he is cancer-free, its okay to start smoking again. Lol
But have run into a few that are. Actually tried an arrangement with a provider couple years back that blew up in my face. Started taking things for granted quickly & felt like she had the upper hand. Started getting flaky, all these weird excuses over sleeping etc etc to the point when I questioned her I was the jerk!
I'm all for being fair & taking things into consideration but buddy id just move on & hope you have found another ATF! Not worth giving into the headache or drama. Even though its a service there are quality ladies that will appreciate your "relationship" trust me.
Just takes time finding the right ATF
That is why you always need a handful of ATF’s, including a couple of choices you know you can see on short notice! In these covid times, girls tend to be less busy, so if one ATF cancels, I usually focus first on filling the desired slot with a back-up!
Next evaluate the situation. If it is the first time she let you down, perhaps give it one more shot. If not, move on! That’s the great thing about this hobby - every provider is expendable and there are plenty of back-ups!!
sadly too many girls have a "what have you done for me lately" attitude .. you know the expression that some people live hand to mouth? i think some girls don't think past tomorrow, its "what have you done for me today". vs thinking, ok what long term arrangement can i get from him repeated and regularly.
Just be happy that you no longer are financially supporting her drug use habit
Life happens. I would rather not get sick. Sounds, like she did not appreciate your business. Sorry.