So, I was married to an accountant at the age of 19 for 13 years. I didn't cheat on her and I think we had sex like 8 times in 13 years.
So, after 13 years of that, I think I'm pent up and twisted enough that I just want to date women in the sex industry. Dated a girl that was a stripper, too ghetto. Dated a girl that shot porn, too many drug problems, figured an escort might be just right. I'm talking like a real relationship. I'm not one of these dirtbags looking to live off a woman, if anything, I'd be the generous one. But, is there like a place or strategy to meet these women? I am so sick of being single!
First, run a bath with cold water. Then, dump 5 or 6 bags of ice in it.
Now strip and get in the tub with your wallet and a pair of scissors.
Take all the money out of your wallet, and cut it up in little pieces in the water.
You are now getting used to being broke and miserable.
Repeat daily for a month, or until you come to your senses.
Very good advice, dated two escort same story with both, they never had enough money, and always looking for a way to run a con on you. Do not date an escort, big mistake.
I had to check the Calendar! I thought it was April 1st for a second. DOOOOODE!!!!! Wake the F up!!!!
Seriously.........NO REALLY........Serious?
If you were ever home wondering " Is my girl out screwing another guy?" Well she is!
not too hard. if you can live with the fact shes fucking other guys that is.
these girls are human so sometimes they connect with a client. and if you know how to communicate and romance them like normal girl then thats it. so expect to see them couple of times so they develop some kind of emotional connection as a regular. i notice after i repeat with a girl 4-5 times we start hanging out on her nonworking hours and free of charge....later free sex..etc.
but mine usually don't last long. i either get jealous or i end up seeing other escorts and my girl finds out and she dumps me...or my girl wants to keep working and earn money and thinking of me stresses her out so i get dumped.
but there are some success stories. couple of ex escorts i know eventually quit for her man and now are either married and have kids and live in a nice suburb. this job isnt long term for these girls. so they will quit in their 30s.
so ignore all these guys who tell you to wake up etc. if you want it go for it. its possible. just have to deal with all the crap above.
good luck
If you want a relationship, use a dating website. If you want sex, see an escort. Don't confuse the 2.
First -- Admit to yourself that your libido needs attention. Your x wife did not like sex.
Second -- Search and find a provider that you like and is comfortable with you and that will massage and treat your libido and libido only. Do not search for providers as girl friends. If it happens, that is a different story.
Third -- Feel better about yourself
Fourth -- Then you will find a girl friend whether it be a stripper, provider, teacher, politician (oops forget politician)or whatever.
I have met some awesome girls in supermarkets in the meat section of course.
Be patient grasshopper.
Get laid, get confident, and she will find you.
"Fourth -- Then you will find a girl friend whether it be a stripper, provider, teacher, politician (oops forget politician)or whatever."
A politician is not that bad of an idea. Male or female they all suck and if you have anything to do with them you'll definately get fucked. Just remember a honest politician once bought stays bought. Same with a provider except it's by the hour.
In all honesty and no experenc with this I think it just happens, after all some of them have SO's or husbands. But to go out and activately look for this sort of thing. Well how do you feel about jugling live gernades or going over Nigeria falls in an truck tube.
You primary reason is your sick of living alone.
CHECK OUT MAIL ORDER BRIDES. Google It. They come from Russia, Hungary, Romenia, Bulgeria all over. It's done everyday and your chances of sucess are better than a provider or stripper.
I couldn't understand the escort mentality! I treated her like my GF, buying her expensive gifts, seeing her as much I could afford, and even giving her money outright once when she said she needed money to pay rent. After all the time we spent together and all the effort I made, she still treated me like a customer, negotiating for the time she spent with me every time. She said she didn't have a BF, but later I found out she was seeing this jobless loser who lived on girls. She would beg him for sex and gave him part of the money she made from escorting! I am a fairly young guy with good looks, manner, education and income. We actually got along well and enjoyed each others. I couldn't understand what she was thinking! I guess their mind is all twisted...
Sorry to break it to you, but I think she thought you had a small c**k. Why else would she want a jobless loser instead of you? Read:he had a big one!
Just keepin' it real. You're better off finding a sweet regular girl. We all are.
It can be done, but you'd better have a heart of gold, or it's never going work. And check your jealousy at the door, because it only gets in the way. And one last word of advice - you're better off just seeing a different girl every month from TER. Save yourself the heartache! - when you get dumped for the " better guy" she will easily meet.
I was once seeing the Chinese massage parlour girl, and after awhile we became frineds with benefits, at one point she suggested that we get married but I was already involved in a relationship but I do see her today, so just stick it out and you never know maybe one provider will progress into something more intimate.
Try your escort and feel whether you like people working in this industry. Not imagination.
When you meet different kind of women out there. You'll find out you could fit in this kind of relationship or not.
I'm guessing that since you got married at 19, you didn't have a ton of dating experience.
Escorts are humans too - they have likes, dislikes, quirks, etc. They have a job that probably gives them a litttle harder view on life - since there are a lot of sicko guys out there. Like any other job where there is a "customer" and a "provider" - the provider is sometimes forced to be nicer to customers than they would if they just met them on the street.
Like some of the previous replies to your post, I suggest that you treat this a little like dating. Go out and experience a bunch of providers. Understand that the provider/customer relationship will make it seem like they really really like you. If you get too caught up in wanting to have a girlfriend, I fear that you're setting yourself up for tough times - because, like any other human beings....you've got good people and then you have some head cases (and sometimes....both). Again, you're going to have to seperate the signals you're going to get from the providers you see - and understand that being nice to you is what you are paying for.
Be yourself, be real, and don't get too anxious. Good luck.
I think your chances are better and by the way, stay away from strippers! They are in hustler mode and will take you for more money than an escort and not give sex as easily.
Finding a "Civvie" that is horney is not easy to do, hence your profession. True providers are in the "hustle" mode but so are single civvies. My advice is the oldest advice around. YOU GET WHAT YOU PAY, just don't expect much more than that......
I think that you meant to say Cardinal Sin.
Carnal sin would be the reason why all of us guys seek out the company of escorts!
Nope! It was Carnal allrighty. I know the difference. My Carnal desire got the best of me and thought it would be great to show her the ropes. Only to have her strangle me with that said rope!
Carnal sin would be the reason why all of us guys seek out the company of escorts!
This is how I would do it. See providers who are your type. Certain ones you will connect with and she will connect
With you. See if she would be willing to see you on a reduced rate basis in return you see her on a regular basis.
Obviously providers and hobbyists are going to show their best side so it might take awhile to find out what each of you are really like. A regular date would show more of how well you would do outside a provider environment.Be honest and be yourself.next step would be a cruise or out of town weekend trip. If it doesn't work out try again. It may take awhile but think how much fun you will have during the process.
I dated a FBSM gal -- in the old days there were lots of FBSM girls: they did a nice massage, then a hj happy ending, for like $100. If you saw the same girl 3-4 times, they'd usually blow you, too. Well, this hottie from Asia, like on our third session, decides to suck my cock, and she was great. Truly a cock whore who loved to suck. Then, a few sessions later, SHE whips out a condom and we fuck...
Cut to a year later. I am paying her rent and giving her "gifts" and paying about 10x what I would have paid if I had just continued to see her at the regular rates, even with a big tip for BJ and sex...
DO NOT FUCKING DO IT. IT IS ALL ABOUT MONEY WITH THEM. DO NOT DO IT.
But, hey, that is just my opinion.
RT Over & Out
But first, you need to rethink your approach. Why exclusively target sex workers for relationships? These days civilians in their 20's watch tons of porn and can be everything you desire sexually. That being said, by all means to be open to it because there are many great girls in this field. But heed all the advice above.
To meet them, you can attend socials where they network and hope good looks and charm do the trick, but remember they are working. You can see one professionally and try and convert to a real relationship. Its tough but doable. Probably have to see a fair number of girls before you find one you connect with, but is that such a bad thing?
But at some point before you even get around to dating they will ask you this question and you better have a damn good answer: "what about my job?" First instinct is to say it doesn't bother you, which tells them you don't care about them as a person and you just want for free what previously you had paid for. Upon reflection, you may say it bothers you and you want them to quit. Congratulations! You just became a sugar daddy!
You need to think long and hard about what their job means to you, means to them, and what you are prepared to do about it.
And from experience, beware. Oft times relationship means they text you saying they miss you and are horny when they need money. They may treat you like a king in return, but you sound like you are hurting and you are probably setting yourself up for more hurt. Play the field and get your youth back and be patient. Good luck.
So, after 13 years of that, I think I'm pent up and twisted enough that I just want to date women in the sex industry. Dated a girl that was a stripper, too ghetto. Dated a girl that shot porn, too many drug problems, figured an escort might be just right. I'm talking like a real relationship. I'm not one of these dirtbags looking to live off a woman, if anything, I'd be the generous one. But, is there like a place or strategy to meet these women? I am so sick of being single!
Frankly, most girls will resent the fact that you got to choose her but she did not choose you if you "window shop for her" through ads and stuff and will resent you more if you want to make her dependent on you by asking her to quit your job....
It's an impossible relationship IMO.
do not have escorts as gf..too complicated.
Start dating civvie if you want a relationships..btw not all strippers are ghetto and not all pornstars have drug problems..stop stereotyping!!!
Go to www.sugardaddyforme.com ......I was on there a couple of years ago, and met a GREAT guy!.....He paid all my monthly bills, and we lasted 2 years!.....I did not see anyone else, and we did alot of traveling together....
I had no need to see anyone else, because he took EXCELLENT care of me., and I was in need of NOTHING....If a woman is cheating on you (in this type of situation), you are obviously NOT doing your part....If you want a real HOTTIE though, you better have ALOT of $$$$$ to blow!....
Can't hurt to check it out......
Another one is www.seekingarrangement.com
Good luck!.
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So, after 13 years of that, I think I'm pent up and twisted enough that I just want to date women in the sex industry. Dated a girl that was a stripper, too ghetto. Dated a girl that shot porn, too many drug problems, figured an escort might be just right. I'm talking like a real relationship. I'm not one of these dirtbags looking to live off a woman, if anything, I'd be the generous one. But, is there like a place or strategy to meet these women? I am so sick of being single!