Look for at least 3 or 4 reviews and then look at who's doing the reviewing.
You won't go wrong. You can pick up a lot by looking at who else the reviewer saw
and how he reviewed them and how he usually reviews.
It works for me every time.
No problems and only some minor disappointments.

Trust me, if you have already seen the very hot provider with only one review, there's nothing to be paranoid about now.

I had the same paranoia when I started.  However, if you do your research on TER you are fine.  My personal rule is to see providers with at least two reviews from hobbyists with a good review history.  If these hobbyists have seen women I have seen it is even more reassuring.  Simply put, if there is no review, I do not see.  Most people who are stung or ripped off take a leap of faith and that is not smart in this game.

You just need to do your research carefully.