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thingsthatmakeu go hmm 337 reads
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Is it awkward?  Meeting out in public like that.... essentially introducing yourself as a client/provider?  What would you talk about?  And doesn't that attract attention.

Sure, I can see why some guys want to encourage these events because of course they want to continue to hang out with providers on the "meet and greets" off the clock.... and the providers want to gain more business..

BigPeterJohnson706 reads

i know, i know, i sound like a broken record (for you kids...a record is like an old-timey ipod, only bigger and easier to mess up, but with better session notes and cover art).

but after beatpoet's meet&greet this week, i was once again reminded how seeing someone face to face is 100 times better than reading an ad with a blurred out face or reading a bunch of reviews by guys who might or might not be looking for the same thing as i am.

at beatpoet's m&g, i re-connected with a couple of ladies i was interested in and firmed up my intention to visit with them.  i saw one at the m&g and then visited her the very next day!  and she was somebody whose reviews i had seen, but never considered connecting with until i met her in person!

i also met some new ladies, whose ads i had seen before but never considered seriously.  however, upon chatting and flirting with these new friends, they have now gotten onto my "to do" list, knocking a few possibilities further down the list.

these days my time and resources are tighter than a few years ago, and i can't afford to be shooting in the dark, so to speak, any more.  i must make my decisions carefully, and talking with a real live human being always informs my decision much better than guessing, "well, i can't see her face but her body is good, and a few guys give her 7's and 8's, so i might as well take a big economic chance that we will get along."

don't get wrong, i have had very few "bad" encounters even when calling blind.  but i found that discover that a lady and i have chemistry before hand will give her a big advantage in my decision for her being one of my next partners, rather than someone i have never met before.

i don't mean to bore you with the ramblings of an old man (old enough that i could have made a grammaphone joke in the first paragraph) and, as with everything in this hobby, ymmv.  young guys may not care about personality as much as i do.  

but i find socialization to be a fantastic "lube" to make future encounters slide in easier.

so to speak.

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CVmania449 reads

Hopefully, I will have a chance to attend next m&g...

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Dbara345 reads

I've not been to a MnG here, but did attend several in FL. At one party, a lady approached me and I wasn't thrilled as she was someone I had 'judged' not for me based on her photos. She' was much better looking in person... and flirty, witty and funny much to my surprise. Needless to say, we went off to a room that night.

You just never know, eh???

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katrinaloti421 reads

So sweet!  I completely agree.  Being a provider, you only really know someone until you meet them in person...Pictures, words; they do not compare whatsoever with the knowledge you get from meeting someone in person.

Some people wonder what I see in older men - and this is one... ;)

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ExoticAvaLove543 reads

I was not available to attend but would have loved to chat and mingle with a few gents from this site. Can ladies have their own "meet & greet"? Or are they only allowed to be hosted by a gent / mod from here?

♥ Ava

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BigPapasan449 reads

...a lot of work and you have to make sure both the men and women are screened thoroughly.  I'm sure the veteran M&G hosts would be glad to give you advice.

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G2386 reads

There was a well-known provider, since retired, that hosted a couple that I attended 7 or 8 years ago.  She had the advantage of having access to a house that she used for incalls, so they were more like regular parties except the guest list was all TER people.

Not only was it a great way to meet the ladies, including some very nice UTR women, but it was also when I learned that at least half of the women on this board are bisexual.  This is why I've never done a threesome, it was obvious to me they were more interested in each other than most of the guys there.  But I digress.

Back in the early days of TER, about 7 or 8 of us guys got together for monthly lunches at areas restaurants.  I think we also met for drinks once after work.  We'd try to get about the same number of ladies as men, and had great success with this for about two years.

If you go that route, I suggest you find a restaurant that has an isolated meeting room (quite a few do) so you can enjoy yourselves without worrying about the noise or anything else.  We always left a good tip and were always welcomed back.  It was great fun and I think the ladies enjoyed it as much as the men.  And like the current M&Gs, the guys would cover the cost of drinks and lunch for the ladies to encourage their attendance.

So yeah, it can be great fun and a good way to meet people in a safe environment.  Just be sure to screen the people you invite.  In the case of the two events I mentioned, we only invited people that one of us had some personal knowledge of and had previously met- so no bad surprises.  But if you want to have a more open group, like the larger M&Gs, do whatever you feel comfortable with.

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BigPapasan382 reads

...party about 6-7 years ago in North Hollywood.  The hostess and most of the women are long gone.

Oh, what you did to that cake, FR, was a crime.

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RedReaver929360 reads

In the last week I have come across two relatively new providers who offered an OTC meet for coffee or such. With the need for privacy, there are always complaints about blurred face pictures. So these ladies decided to prime the pump, so to speak, and meet with potentials. It actually encouraged me to check them both out, and after meeting the, I was so impressed I have booked appointments with each.

I thought it was a great marketing strategy for someone trying to enter into such a secretive world. A lot less work than having to set up a whole big party. But it  does take a willingness on the ladies' part to put themselves out there for awhile until reviews (and business) build up.

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zorbaelgreeko371 reads

three lovely ladies who I would never otherwise have met.
They were all on my "to do list" after the M&G. Two I have already "done" and have been back for "more", and lady no 3 will be "done" next
week. I think for the ladies it is a great way to market themselves and it is a win win combination for both the ladies and gents.

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BigPeterJohnson374 reads

that's a great idea.  i have to say i am leaning towards never going on a blind date again, and only booking time with people i have met face to face...not so much about looks, but about chemistry.

i've found these meet&greets to be invaluable, as i've said before.

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RedReaver929327 reads

I made a post below about what some other ladies are trying, but after revisiting your website, I realize the blurred photos are not an issue for you.

So if you do get something going, keep me in mind for the guest list.

Having the chance to meet a lady beforehand has accounted for over half of the connections I have made (not that I've made that many) That chance to get to meet and see if there is a connection with the real person will continue to be a huge factor in my decision making.

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bond007454 reads

Ava,

Should you have any questions, please let me know.  I'll answer and help wherever I can.

Bond

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thingsthatmakeu go hmm338 reads

Is it awkward?  Meeting out in public like that.... essentially introducing yourself as a client/provider?  What would you talk about?  And doesn't that attract attention.

Sure, I can see why some guys want to encourage these events because of course they want to continue to hang out with providers on the "meet and greets" off the clock.... and the providers want to gain more business..

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funseeker99361 reads

Very friendly and very casual. The events are private, providers and hobbyists are screened and it's the best way I know of for the guys to meet potential dates that they may never have noticed from just their ads.   I really encourage you to attend the next one.

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RedReaver929371 reads

Way it worked (twice) for me:

1> Newbie provider knows she doesn't have a lot of reviews yet and wants to try something new and different until next  organized M&G comes around

2> She offers a brief OTC meeting over drinks or coffee

3> If connection made, the happy couple adjourns to her incall location

4> If not, know harm, no foul (but for me, that chance to get to meet the person was the ultimate sales closer, and her concept worked)

As i said, this takes some willingness to take a chance on both sides of the arrangement, and is no threat to your high caliber events Mr. Bond. Just an interesting development that is new to me.


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