In order to understand that while many of us do care about our health, safety and future, others may feel that it is ok and acceptable to endanger the health and safety of others. I guess it is worst and a more prominent problem than most think and the only way to end it is to a) have a strict policy of not offering this whatsoever b) not request it whatsoever no matter how good she looks or how convincing you may be.  
While I do think that you did the right thing by getting tested, please be aware that many diseases do take time to show up, therefore, a brief careless moment can carry a lot of headaches and future preoccupations.
Please gentlemen do us and yourself a favor, do not request it nor bring your test results to the dates.. It is just an unnecessary and unsafe request that endangers all of us.

I also feel that what happens between two people is their business, and theirs alone.  Let's not kid ourselves.  BBFS happens, whether it be a result of a stripper slide that went too far, whether it's a situation of certain providers offering it in exchange for a "10/10" review, or whether it's a service that a provider offers a client simply because she has known him for so long.  The fact is that everyone in this activity or whatever you wanna call it is sexually active, and we need to assume the best but prepare for the worst, as the saying goes.

Why it took four times to come to the decision to stop
that behavior?

"Your a braver man than I Gunga Din" . I prefer the provider saying "No glove, no love".
Let's be safe for the good of us all.

Yes. We know that. We also know that ripoffs, assaults and outings happen. That doesn't mean we shouldn't try to educate ourselves, encourage safer behavior and take responsibility for our curious little corner of the world. No one here expects BBFS to disappear tomorrow no matter how enlightened we become. But just because we can't drive it to zero is no reason to not at least try to confront it. Just as we would ripoffs etc.  

Completely agree with everything Crazyshit has said, in fact i think he stole my words xx

Why would you hide behind an alias and not put your name on it.....just curious, that's all. We're all hiding here in some way.....

For a few years on several boards, including GD, NY, and LA. He has tons of reviews under that alias. He sends and receives PMs under that alias. That alias is no different than a regular handle. I'm not white knighting him. Lol. I disagree with a lot of his posts (but this one was good). I just think it is silly to say he is "hiding" behind an alias.

Pretty simple, actually.  And I use it to weed out the people who can't figure out that you can PM an alias even though it doesn't have a hyperlink next to it that allows you to do that.

You are entitled to think that, and you absolutely should.

Knowing that should make us pause for a minute and consider the situation, because the day WILL come when we look back at our past exploits and wonder WTF was I thinking!  Better to ask and answer that question now, rather than later.

if i may ask a question...how many of you hobbyists carry a condom in your wallet?  or bring one to a session with a lady?

I am glad that you reached a very wise decision, but I don't feel your assumption is correct. During the last 12 months, I have seen over 30 "well respected, highly rated, well known young ladies" and it has not happened to me once. Unless it has happened to many other hobbyists, I think your experience may be just a fluke (if it's true). Generally speaking, I don't believe BBFS happens frequently. I would suggest you continue to get tested because you may not be in the clear, unless you get HIV early detection test. If someone is HIV infected then she would not be concerned with catching something so BBFS is more likely. It's just something for you to think about so you can stick with your pledge. Good luck.

I've been watching this post grow and the right question has appeared to add my 2¢.

I always have some stowed away in the car or tuck a couple in the pocket if I have seen the provider before. I have had to retrieve them on 2 occasions.

Like I said, I have a bad history with condoms, so I try to improve my odds by having a fresh/unopened box of whatever brand works best for me (no antiques from the wallet).  If you can't risk taking them home, just leave them behind, she can always use them.

So, we are discussing BareBackFullService.  
 Me, the only thing a provider can catch from me is motherhood.  And I know!!!  
 Provider, I have not come across any provider that wasn't extremely careful (translate that professional)!
You see the number, it's 50.  
  My university days.  There was A LOT more being passed around by college co-eds than ANY provider.
  I have not come into contact with any provider that I even thought might have had anything that could be considered questionable or passed to a Hobby-ist.  I mean not even a scratchy throat or a cough!  So if a provider went bareback with you she has already determined that you are "safe", because in this internet, info at the speed of wireless communications world, EVERYBODY is gonna know that somebody caught something in about 30 seconds!!!  That would be career ending, 4 her.  Providers are garnering equivalent pay scales to people with a Bachelors AND a Law Degree.  Would you risk that !?!?!?!  Nope . . .

You are probably correct in that any kind of transmission of disease or outbreak is something that will be communicated quickly in this day and age.  However, that doesn't really hedge out the fact that you might just catch something and then of course find out too late.  There is still a six-month incubation period between infection and it showing up on a standard HIV test that tests for antibodies.  With herpes or other STDs...not sure about the incubation periods there.

Yep muff I am curious 4 times to wake up ?and think with a big head?lol
Listen I am not judging you  
BUT COMON most of   You guys are married
why put in risk the healthy of  
 YOUR LOVED wife and destroy your marriage and worse  
HURT your woman and family  

Not surprisingly, I didn't understand your response in the thread above about providers wanting references.

Men who avoid bbfs imagine it's rare, and women who oppose it likewise. But they're both being misled by their self-selected samples. Men who look for it and women who offer it have a clearer idea of its availability and acceptance.