was reading and watching videos by this guy who posts videos of his wife on a sex site.  

even writes a blog about how he fantasized his wife having sex with another guy and eventually persuaded her to do it and film it for him.  the stranger guy she slept with didn't know she was married etc.  she filmed it like it was only for them and then she took the video home and shared it with her real husband.  then she broke up with the stranger and didn't see him again after her husband told her to break up with him.   per the husband's blog he said his wife told him she did BBBJ with the stranger and covered sex if she was telling the truth.

so i don't get this.  why would you want to have and see your wife have sex and orgasm with another guy.  a total stranger?  what kind of pleasure does a husband have seeing your wife sucking and eating cum of another guy and orgasming with him?  

and for the wife...why in the world do you want to share something between your husband with another man?  and giving BBBJ?  eating another man's cum while your husband watches you do it?  and even orgasming with the other man?

i have no idea what pleasure the hubby and the wife gets out of this.  

any opinions on why both want to do it

That's called a cuckold fetish. Couples do it because they are into it.
People are turned on by different things; don't judge others just because you have different tastes.

I think it's hot.  If I had a wife or GF it would be cool if they fucked someone else.  I would have to watch though.  Sex is sex....just don't fall in love.   I have a friend and he travels a lot in the hollywood business and his wife says, "you can fuck who you want, just don't fall in love"   it makes sense.  It's just like a provider...we fuck and have sex.   We DON'T fall in love with providers.  Well some do, but they have issues beyond just wanting sex.  :  

I agree 100%.  Too many people judge others and do the same shit behind closed doors.  What do we call those people :     O'Yeah....Losers.  :  

Fiddy your last sentence deserves a spanking.  A client who falls in love with a provider does not mean he has issues.  Unless he falls in love with every provider he meets lol, but that's another story.....

TER should really think about putting a spank button on here

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It's certainly not a relationship for the weak.

Falling in love with a provider means accepting her for who she is and what she does and not trying to 'change' or 'rescue' her. It's easy to say "I can do that," but it's a LOT harder to actually do it.  

I'm sure most, if not all, of the women on here have SOs IRL. I'll assume most of the SOs know what they do and are comfortable with it. Good for them. But you really have to be guy who's comfortable with the relationship, and not the jealous type, and we all have egos. So I'd say any guy who falls in love with a provider is setting himself up for a real test of his mettle....

Having said that, there have been a few women I would have liked to have had a relationship with, because I think they were awesome and interesting in addition to being beautiful...

Many years ago I was traveling on business to a certain state on occasion.  One time when there I picked on a copy of this paper like you would find in adult book stores and saw an ad there.....well it was a paper from an adult book store.  In it I saw this photo of a cute Hispanic lady looking for sex partners.  I'm thinking to myself, yeah right, no way, TGTBT.  But I keep it and thought about it for a few days and figure WTF harm can it be to check out.  So I sent her a letter and photo of myself.  A week to so later she writes back and is interested.  Okay!  But I need to talk to her and her husband about it.....husband, WTF.  A few days later I figured I would call.  So I call and talk to her and her husband.  WOW, what a deal.  

So the husband was in the military and married this Mexican lady from a very conservative Catholic family.  He was the first man she had ever been with.  He had been a swinger before getting married and kind of wanted to continue.  He told her about his past and that he wanted her to be go be with other guys while he still did his swinging thing.    He told her she could have all the sex she wanted, just no falling in love or other such emotion.  She really liked my latter and photo and he really liked the fact I was from out of town and would just pass through on occasion.  She had three or four older brothers who would have not looked kindly on this activity.  So her husband was scared about them finding out somehow if she saw a guy who lived local.  

So next time I was in town she comes over to my hotel and we sit in the hotel bar for awhile and get to know each other better.  She is still game so we head back to my room and had a lot of fun.  OMG.  So needless to say for the next couple of years I always made time to visit there and see her when in that or a neighboring state.  Nothing but free wild sex!

After about two years he got deployed to another area and they moved.  That was a drag, no more free fun for me.  But what a blast while it lasted

I have had several but never last long.  Not only do you have to deal with jealousy but other things like trust and if deal with kgirls then have to deal visa immigration marriage issues etc.  how some can handle all that and stay together and get married for love etc is amazing.  I mean cmon your girl is tongue kissing and swallowing hundreds of other men's spit and cum!  How do you deal with that image in the longterm???

Amaziing...