I had a May-December romance when I was 21 with an older woman, and we had amazing sex to Depeche Mode's "Violator".  If that album doesn't set the mood, then you might as well play some ABBA or Yanni or something.

I saw a provider a few years ago, who played Massive Attack's "Mezzanine" album in the background.  A dark, erotic experience from start to finish.

The only negative would be if the music ends up being a distraction instead of a mood setter.  One provider paid too much attention to the T-Pain and Pitbull videos playing on a hotel room TV than on me.  Same with the death metal and that screamo stuff, serious overkill.  

I think the best thing to do (if possible) is to find out what the provider's taste in music is and put together a mix CD in advance for the session, and for her to keep.  I did that for a girl who was into Dead Can Dance, Nick Drake, and some of the downtempo and dubstep stuff.  It's extra work, but it's worth it.

Re: music for sure!

A good amount of people who know me Know Soft Love Making Music that makes things happen like "' In between the sheets".........

as far as SADE goes  The Diamond Life Album.......boy does that date my age

and further more "Like a Lover's Rock"' CD


Come she me Like a Lover's Rock.......or think The song 'Love for Sale"

Of course soft for background, to relax and communicate, if you know what i mean.


 Naturaly i would have a barefoot picture, the way SADE does Best!

I do have a Barefoot picture  if you follow my link.

Have Fun in like with music