Have you ever fallen in love with a provider?
If you've ever read the GD board, one gets a sense that it does happen. How often it happens one will never really know.
...it goes like this: "When I'm not near the girl that I love, I love the girl I'm near!" Ciao!
It's bound to happen. Chemistry clicks. Attraction, connection, chemistry, all the senses are happy with the person, and maybe even a little projection of who you want them to be to you... Just being human is going to bring human feelings. There's never a sure way to stop feeling human things. We don't expect it to happen, but surely it can.
I fell in love once with a famous actor in NYC. His energy just felt like I had come home. He felt safe and confident and was kind hearted. But perhaps he was only mirroring what I wanted in my own life. He triggered my own deep desires to feel successful, good, at ease.. He made me feel dreams were possible to achieve. And that's why i drove cross country to Hollywood after meeting him. Even tho Id most likely never see him again, He had triggered confidence in me, and I was brave finally to go after my Hollywood dream. I think love happens when we feel a person mirrors what we wish to be, highlights our own goodness and makes us feel special, and the chemistry clicks. Maybe two people met in a past life and found each other again.
Don't feel bad for falling in love. Just be in control of it. If it's not mutually felt, then you have to cherish the feeling and learn from it, but not pursue it. If it's mutually felt, then in a way isn't it nice that two people found each other, that otherwise might not have.
This kind of meeting is straight forward. You know you'll meet and be intimate. Just be natural. Allow love to flow in and out of your life. Even if you only feel it in the 2hrs you are with each other. It never can be wrong to love. It's only wrong when you can't let go when you need to
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Like many others here you are a fucking poet and spot on...
Insecure narcissism - just annihilates the possibility of falling in love. How foolish would some old guy be to fall in love with a smoking hot escort - who by definition is only after his wallet?
You browse the internet, see a sexy hot chick and set up a "date". When you meet her - anything is possible! Just like anything is possible with that chick standing next to you in line at Starbucks. You just have to be switched on enough to believe it, be open to it and put yourself 'out there'. For me this is a very new thought and it has fundamentally changed me for the better. I am learning compassion and empathy and laughing my head off while I'm learning it...
For me it is possible and yet highly improbable and karma does owe me a good kick in the balls because of those young masseuses that I seduced and kicked to the curb (the insecure narcissist comment above is about me) - so I'm sure the wheels will come off soon - but for now I'm staying in the moment and enjoying the ride... 'Living in the moment, right there... I mean right here...'
"Let's Just Call It A Ghost Cat Walter Mitty" Hahaha
A little bit of love can go a long way, if held on to. However, many of us are like leaky buckets; chalked full of holes. As quickly a love enters, it leaves, and we are left doing stupid things to demand more from the one who gave it. Love is given, it can't be extorted. Better just to patch up the holes, and carry what love we've been given, as long as possible, until more love is given. 
I can count on one hand the number of providers I grew to care about very much. I'm not using the love word here because it tends to get over used and I wasn't looking for "love" or a LTR. So I'm going to just say very good friends to the point I would go out of my way to be there for them if needed. Also, even though I got to know each of them really well, it was not well enough to determine true long term compatibility. Those were mostly what I would call good friendships. Yes, friends can "love" each other depending on how liberally one wants to use the word. Once I even ended up meeting the father of one provider I became very good friends with back in the mid 1990's. Though obviously her father didn't know how we met.
It says a lot when I visit a special friend and they insist on buying me dinner or invite me to crash at their place for two or three days. Totally unexpected but very much appreciated! So yeah, of course something like that is going to be based on a good friendship at the minimum and someone I would care about and always try and have their back if needed.
Only one of those "friends", that I at first thought was sincere, did I very soon determine was only trying to get what she could and take advantage. That one soon learned that such behavior comes with consequences. But even that one was a good lesson for me on how hard it can be sometimes to recognize an addict as being one. But they can only hide it so long. There are few more real life Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde experiences than driving over to help a friend move and instead finding a meth head in mid crash. That was the only negative experience of mine along those lines.
Also I used to know a provider in the Washington DC area that ended up marrying someone who I am about 75% sure was once a client of her's. Although it does happen, I doubt it happens very often. He had an advantage though. I had reason to suspect she was addicted to pain medication and he was an MD with a prescription pad. The big question though, does that make for a strong LTR? I wouldn't bet on it
and by you...
When I say "love" I mean something totally different.
To sum it up for me it would be looking at your "provider" and saying - let's stop fucking and find a way to introduce you into my "real life" as a friend and to stay as a friend - So I can spend more time with you are really help where I can.
This is just me and I have only felt this way once and it was impossible to pull off but going forward I am going to leave myself open to the possibility... (Just like everywhere else in my life).
*Why did you think she was addicted to opiates
Two of my girlfriend - top escorts - are getting married to super successful really nice guys
Two of my other girls are already married to their clients - and now are living both: in love and like royalty
Does it happen to all escorts? No
Do those ladies deserve the best guys and can they meet them?
Yes! and They meet those good guys every day
If you're smart, you could conclude that super successful guys are't spending much of their time on review websites like TER
Not many of them.. maybe ones who are retired...
Why do you guys are scared to fall in love? Is it a Mommy issue?
I hope your relationship with your mom was great, so you are able to respect and love women
Let's contemplate this scenario for a moment. Would your friends still be in love if these men were to somehow lose their current status? If you equate your happiness to the level of material things you're provided for, then can you honestly say that it's true love?
As far as being scared to fall in love, I've been that route and thanks, but I'll pass. There is a reason is have elected to be in this world.
You date women with breasts, we date men with resources and ability to provide.
Among all guys with abilities to provide there are guys who are "better" and "worse" .. we pick among them.
It is evolutionary psychology
In the past, If you pick woman without breasts, your children wont be able to survive through first couple of years..
Your sexual preferences are directed by your instincts.
Love is more sophisticated though.
So SAD that so many people here are Jaded...
I believe in men, I think life is better if you believe in women
Yes, love is way more sophisticated than physical attraction or the depth of a person's wealth
I believe in Women!
It's myself that I sometimes lose faith in...
On a side note, lately I've found attracted to women with small breasts... IDKW
Believing in women and believing in love. Most men here have made a consciousness decision to leave the emotionally aspect out of the equation.
Maybe most TER members are looking for just physical encounter, but huge percentage of my friends are coming for love, friendship, companionship, , and some mental stimulation, as well asl excitement. It's less to do with a physical act and more with understanding, connection, giving, sharing, lov
what up dude ter won't let me pm you
now the pm's are going through. guess ter was cranky yesterday. i know i was (till my dinner date with a certain lovely lady)
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