Since 50 Shades of Gray, women are much more open to admitting they like to be submissive.  There seems to be a double standard for men.  When one of my favs comes to relax and enjoy I spend a little time hitting his ass hard with a awesome leather paddle.  This comes in between a massage and him giving me his manhood with all his mite.  It is a part of our private time that we both enjoy.  Another friend likes it when I put on my strap on....  My question is why do most guys want to keep this type of enjoyment a secret?  The one guy says that he would never tell his friends he like to be anally pleasured.  If you like to be dominated , spanked or tied up  (as part of your sexual enjoyment) - Do you think your male friends would think less of you if they knew?

Men are macho & think other guys will perceive them as pussy, or gay because of their BDSM interests.

I have discussed this fact with many of my closet subs who are in a power position all day.  Look at the reviews.  The majority state GFE, or FS when in fact none of that occurred.  Men are afraid to share their true desires with other men that is why TER clearly states theses reviews are fantasy.  I wish this community was more open to accepting fantasy, fetish, role-play & BDSM sessions.  You should get more points for offering kinky activities.

I provide lots of strap-on & dildo play, or toys for boys ot is always funny to never hear theses mentioned in the reviews because the fellas are afraid of other peoples opinions of their secret fantasies.  Lucky, I do not judge.  To each their own.  I love submissive men

Yes, lucky we do not judge.  I had a friend many years ago who was a mistress in Santa Monica.  She told me how most of her clients were airline pilots.  These men would fly in from all over the country/world to spend time with her. Can you imagine the stress these guys are under every day having hundreds of people's lives in your hands?  Being with her they did not have to be in control of everything.  They got to relax and let go. Some high power men don't really have a outlet except for the time they spend with us.  So guys just because your buddy wants to have some BDSM , fetish or fantasy fun - he is not gay or pussy.  He is just thinking outside the box and doing what feels good......

I would love to hear from the guys on this

I have to say that as humans we unfortunately DO INDEED JUDGE . Everyone of us , it's programmed into us and you cannot do anything to avoid doing it .
What's the FIRST thing that pops into your head when I say .......
Nun
Slut
Nerd
Convict
Homeless  
Obese

See what I mean ? You did it , you "classified" them or you could use the term "judge" . I think they are pretty damn close in meaning . Be honest for a split second you did it . It's automatic .

OK , with that said it is still not mainstream and has a social stigma much like homosexuality DID ! HOORAY FINALLY !!!!
Men are dominate by today's minset . To share your submissive side with the "guys" drinking beer would be instant dismissal from that group . No way around it , the guys will change their way of viewing you . We still will continue on our beer drinking and BBQ's as we always have . Your still my friend and buddy but somehow different .....
Like gays coming out of the closet - difficult and life changing to say the least .
Society is simply not at the point where men being submissive and whips being used and anal toys is "normal" or accepted .
It's not worth the huge life change to discuss it and let it be known to our circle of friends as a whole .

 

love this topic, im a male, former special forces paratroopter from viet nam, i am a true sub, my male friends know, and im secure in myself, i love it all, strap on, spankings, sensual dom, tease and denial.been in some spanking videos. so if a male is secure with in himself, thats where it starts. thank you for the topic madison. you ladies are amazing

Good for you!  Know we all know it takes a Big Man with big balls to be a Paratrooper but in this case it a bigger man to speak his truth and be secure. - BTW - I offer veterans a discount.

Thank you for your service,
Madison

Don't know about others and certainly only know what I like.  I'm in a position of power all day and have no desire to give up control. Fantasy? Fetish? Sure. I love a woman's pretty feet and bein teased by them. I make no secret of this and am not ashamed of it. But as for being taken anally ,spanked or tied up? Just not my thing. I'm the opposite, I love having pretty lady tied up and blindfolded, anticipating where I will touch her next. I have no desire to hurt, or scare a woman, just her not knowing where I will kiss, lick or probe next is amazingly hot

I think that if guys would get over it and try anal. If it is done right, they would discover how great it feels.

My personal research is 90%+ are into it, in one form or another wether or not they'll admit to it is another story let alone write a review about it that links to them for all to see. I can't tell you how many times I've had a guy tell me I don't like that or how vanilla they are only to end up having to get my largest toys out from the closet. These types have told me the reason they like bigger toys or fisting is because they love the full filling it gives them. Now, even if someone told me up front how they love huge toys I'd never start them out with one. I always start with small toys and take it slow and easy.  I have a HUGE collection of toys so I'm sure I have whatever it is they'll need to be pleasured and fulfill their needs.

To some keeping it a secret and to themselves is also a fantasy.  
If everyone knows about it then its not all that taboo.

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