I've met some really great clients on first date overnights.

I guess it depends on comfort level. If you are anxious going into it, you probably won't be relaxed enough to enjoy the time. The more you do overnights, the less stressful.

You can always start out by agreeing to a dinner date and if you both feel comfortable extend to the overnight?

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If the screening is right and there is no safety concerns then no I don't have a problem with it. I've met some amazing clients by taking those chances, I just screen well.

I was going to write that:  No, I don't do overnights, with providers, but I forget that there are 2 periods of my hobbling life:
1.  Post marriage (since 2005)
2.  Pre marriage: off and on, during the pre internet era.  I knew 3 part time ladies that occaionally elected to spend the night at my place.  Different time.  Different scene.

For me to consider an overnight.  There would have to be significant chemistry between the provider and myself.  Thus it would be unlikely I would see a new lady for the night, unless the first hour was exceptionally hot.  Occasionally I have extended, one hour sessions to 2 and 3 hours.  Cash on hand can be a limiting factor, as is sustained compatability.   In my private life, I have gone to bed with Lois Lane, and woke-up with the Bride of Frankenstein.  Hell, Lois probably thought she went to bed with George Clooney, and woke up next to a Neanderthal.  It works both ways
I would hate to have "morning  regret" or "hobbyist remorse" after spending 2, 3, or 4K.   !
Good work  Carla.  Love the pictures.

You made me laugh

A few things I do on overnights. Shh don't tell any of the men tho :-P

I've started bringing ear plugs in my purse. Last overnight, he snored so much, he woke himself up and had to take a sleeping pill. Then all night long, the bed shook with every snore. I couldn't sleep

I love overnights tho. They are so romantic. I love the dinner date. We go out to a lovely restaurant, and have wonderful chats, fill our bellies with healthy delicious food, then go back to the hotel to enjoy each other. I love the time at dinner getting to know each other. It makes the passion afterwards so much nicer when you feel so comfortable. I usually see business men so they do need some sleep because of work or a flight the next day. So we sleep about 6 hours, then more play time in the morning. They usually wake up at 6am, and I'm not an early bird at all, so I sleep like a cat all night. For some reason, Im able to do that. Go into a meditative sort of sleep where I am asleep but also half awake. When I feel him begin to stir, or around 5:45, I gently go to the bathroom to freshen up my face, breath, hair. Come back to bed and he usually spoons me. Then you know what happens next lol

I think its best to meet someone for a shorter date before an overnight. To see if you get along well. I once did an overnight with someone I hadn't met before, and we just didn't click. He wanted to eat cookies in the bed and all night long I was feeling crumbs under my back

Just a couple things you need and you're all set. Ear plugs, but don't let him see you put them in or he will be offended! Sneak out of bed before he wakes up to freshen your breath, hair, makeup. I guess everyone has their own way of doing an overnight. I like a more traditional type, that resembles a girlfriend experience with a professional man who likes to Spoon and cuddle. I always ask if he will kiss my back too. You rarely get your back kissed on a short date. Overnights get you back kisses

I have done many overnight dates and most of them have gone very well but most of the overnights have occurred after a shorter first appointment where I got to know the lady a little before deciding to book an overnight.  I have only done two first date overnights with someone I have never met....Fortunatley for me both ladies were teriffic and we hit it off and had a great time....One of them became my ATF....So you can get lucky on a first date overnight.

BUT....Miss Carla....As your friend and someone who knows you well I would caution against an overnight with a brand new client....Chemistry is very important to you and you are entirely too honest to pretend to fake having a good time  all night long if there is not a good connection between you and him....You definately need to give him a Test Drive before  you sign up for an overnighter.....So are you being too picky???....No...you are Just being cautious.

Just my $0.02 worth.
 

I don't really have a problem with them. To solve the privacy issue I booked a Jr. Suite with 2 bathrooms. I think it worked out very well. I would do more, but I am have very limited flexibility. I could think of two beautiful ladies in this thread that  I would love to do that with.

I think due to the length of the date I would avoid a total stranger...tell him to book 1 hour and see how it goes and if you like him you can later do the overnight. As a hobbyist I would never do an extended date(over 4hrs) with a provider I have never met.

Since then it has been a a steadfast rule to have a first date before booking an overnight.

I have done an over night or two in the past, however those times were after I have gotten to know the lady to make sure things would go smoothly. (I had some of the best dreams while sleeping in their beds for 8 hours until the morning sun peeks through the blinds ....)

If I were to do an overnight, I would definitely want to see the lady for a short date first to see if there were a connection or lack there of. With a "non connection", or if the physical attraction just isn't there, even an hour could be a chore. I would hate to have an all nighter planned and be hating it the whole night. The buyers remorse or hobby regret as it were would be unbearable.
At least in the case of the ladies, they see the "compensation" for the evening. For us fellas, it would not be pleasant to be coughing up that compensation for someone that just didn't fit.
For me, it would be mandatory for at least one, maybe more dates before even considering the overnight.

I don't think anyone could keep up with you overnight!  Better have EMS on stand bye as well!!!

...but only as she came highly recommended by my ATF...wouldn't do it otherwise with an unknown quantity regardless of her website pics, reviews, etc.  If you don't click or if the lovemaking is bad, then what?

No way!!

You need to drive the car before you buy it.  In this case you need to meet him and see if you like him and
If there is a connection that you feel comfortable with.  It's worse than a blind date.. At least you can leave a date and money is exchanged.  I say NO !!  Ask to see him once and then go form there.  On the other hand why would he want to do an over night with you without seeing you.  That is also crazy.  Works both ways.  I would think that is a ReD flag.  Just my thoughts

Thanks for the response and..

HEY  people thanks for the responses
Of course no way to do overnights with new clients
Was just checking for experiences...
But I guess is not for me.....
Thanks niceguy75 lol
Vet chief lol
Warm hugs
For all
CC

you will have overnights soon

New or Repeat date, as long as you can carry on interesting conversations, a loose plan for the evening and truly love what you do (and plan on showing him)...time flys by!  And it doesn't hurt to have a two-bathroom suite for the a.m.