1.  Both, of course, duhhhhh
2.  nice slow love making
3.  choc pudding, choc/van swirl yummy

Swim

No need to deny ribald from romantic, oral from penetration, or added flavor from flesh!

Just blend copious, mutual oral sex transcending into "slow love making". Then chocolate and/or vanilla flavors are introduced as a condiment to compliment every lurid perversion in a frenzied "Hardcore" feast of the flesh.

Whichever, depending on the moods my partner and I are in...

YES - but all in good time

Your first ORAL would need to be Slow & Romantic - otherwise you would send me over the top much too soon.
I want your Oral Torture, followed by Slow Love Making - Gentle but intense fucking, followed by CIM.
A bit of R&R, then onto more Hardcore Oral, followed by Hardcore Fucking, followed by Hardcore CIM.

Now you have exhausted me. We can get to cuddling!