having returned to the hobby for about a year now, i look back at my experiences and find they fall into 3 categories:  the mind-blowing must see again type, the decent-enough time with a nice lady type, and the why the hell am i wasting my time, money and life on this type.

i've pretty much always thought that most human endeavors fall into those three categories anyway:  the worst, the best, and the rest.  usually in other areas the "rest" make up the majority of the group:  5% of people in any given industry are terrific at what they do, 5% should get into something else, and 90% are merely ok.

but, whether thru pure luck or incredible research on my part, my experiences have fallen pretty well evenly:  out of 12 ladies in the last 13 months, 3 were incredible at this game, and i have seen 2 of the 3 again, and plan on seeing the 3rd next time she's in town.  3 were a total waste of my time, and 5 experiences were quite adequate times with nice ladies.

my problem is that i'm not a rich guy.  i don't mind paying elite prices for elite service;  if even only every other woman blew my mind and took me for an incredible ride, i'd consider it time and money well spent.  

but i'm having hard time justifying to myself dropping 8 to 10 kisses for merely an adequate time with a nice lady.  and all of these girls that i've seen got nothing but tremendous reviews.  i stay away from anyone that gets 6's and 7's, and if there are a lot of 8's on a lady's page, i avoid her as well.

i guess what i'm whining about is the lack of attention by some providers to the concept of courtesanship;  many times i show up and get the feeling they are doing this just for the $$$.

of course they are.  but the really good ones make  you forget that, and let you have the feeling that they are genuinely enjoying themselves with you at the moment.

for an experience like that i have no problem laying out a grand for a nice time.  and conversely, i am more than willing to write off the occasional duds and dogs as "you win some, you lose some, that's life" category.

but i'm not flush enough to drop hundreds for simply just a nice time.  at these prices, i expect fireworks.  i want the girl to make me feel like i'm the only guy in the world for a couple of hours.  if she can't do that, if she's just going to allow me to have sexy time with her, fine; but if she doesn't provide high end, she shouldn't charge high end.

and i know its possible, and i know i'm not difficult to be with (quite the opposite, many girls tell me how fun i am and how nicely i'm equipped...sure, they're lying, but they make it seem true at the time).  i have had several times with a handful of ladies that have given me the best sexy time experiences in my life, and are happy to do so again on my repeat visits.  

but merely adequate times with nice ladies?  it's kind of like going to a new restaurant and paying 4 seasons prices up front, and getting marie callendar's level experience.    marie callendars is a perfectly nice restaurant.  but it ain't the four seasons, and it ain't worth that price.

if a girl doesnt' want to be a courtesan, i don't need to be her client.  i could put some extra effort into my life and get some adequate sex with some perfectly nice civilian ladies, and save some dough.  

i guess i'll just have to stay in the top 10 lists of each city.   or maybe just buck up and stop whining when i have simply adequate sex with nice ladies.

Reviews, like everything else that is information, must be vetted.  Not all information is equal, and you need to stop paying attention to the scores and creating some algorithm that seems to make sense.

I use scores as a guideline; for example, if the girl gets 8s and above, then she is worth investigating further.  Then it comes down to reading the reviews of the reviewers, and then doing research on the reviewers.  For example, what other girls have they seen, and would I score them similarly?

Only then can you figure out what this information REALLY means.

Some guys give out 9s and 10s like candy, and most of those guys are basically unreliable in terms of their ratings.  Others do the same, but they share the same preferences as me.

Using the Top lists is no better than living by some algorithm, because they are based on the very numerical scores that have resulted in dissatisfaction.

sorry i didn't mention that in my op.  i assumed it was implied that when i see the numerical scores, i read the reviews as well.  but i can see where i didn't explicitly say that.

but i do, and that's a big part of my frusrtation.  some guys will rave about how great a session is with a lady, and then i find the lady to be one of the 90%, just another lay for pay.

Go back to the girls you felt were exceptional, and find other reviewers who share your opinion.  Find the ladies they also liked, and that will give you a shortlist.

And PM the guys about those girls.  

Finally, be prepared to share info on your end.

Good luck!

As I said read MY reviews. I don't review those who do not perform.

Emily, Su, Nathalie, Lizzy, Fera, Ivy, Allie Loren, Kitty Cox, Mimi Lax, etc. etc.
I stake my reputation on my reviews and some of my brothers will attest
to my taste.

I was not talking about YOU.

I have seen Allie Loren, as well, and I think she is great.  However, without knowing the OP's tastes, I don't know if MY preferences are his.

By following top 10 lists, and looking for 9's / 10's only, you are really setting yourself up to miss out.

I am certainly not a "10" score in looks, I am the first to admit, however I know I give a much better than "average" experience and average an 8 score in looks and experience.

Being that at the time I was being reviewed, that was the highest score I could achieve, I certainly had no complaints, and most of my business was repeat.  Additionally, I requested that I not be reviewed most of the time because of my UTR status.   Even after being VERY UTR for the past two + years, and having no reviews, I have still been getting requests even though I had no advertising and no website.

Im not saying this to sell myself, only that I think that those following the numbers only can really be missing out on great experiences with many ladies out there.

I completely agree with you that a merely "good" experience is not what you should be paying top dollar for.  A true "courtesan experience" (or GFE) will leave you feeling like you are leaving a friend, and in my mind, if a lady offers this, that is exactly how you should feel when you walk out that door (or she walks out yours).  Some may give great 9-10's in acrobatics and looks; but the ones who can really connect with you on a mental level... that takes more than just a hot bod and physical skills.

Just my thoughts on the matter.

some of those girls are in my upper percentile...while others i wouldn't even consider for reasons of personal taste.   but yes, i already am in contact w/other hobbyists who have recommended various ladies to me...one woman specifically that was highly recommended by several hobbyist buddies i would put at the upper end of the broad middle, and if she asked for a lower rate i would definitely say she was great.  but not for the $$$ she asks.

but you didn't seem to be into my interests, so you and i decided to pass on each other, thanks.

i realize that 9 and 10's aren't always indicative of greatness, but you must admit that 6's and 7's are definiitely indicative of not so greatness.

and chemistry is chemistry, and can't be conveyed on paper (or digital bytes, whatever you call it).

however, the top provider in la and the top provider in san diego both fall into my category of true courtesans, who made me feel as if they were enjoying me as much as i was enjoying them.  i know it was an illusion;  my point is, like great magicians, they are fantastic at maintaining the illusion.

thus i am inclined to use scores and top lists as a beginning source of info;  someone above suggested i read the reviews, and believe me, before i see a lady, i read all of her reviews.

i'm making use of all the resources available to me; my problem i guess is the nature of the bell curve in all human endeavor...chances are, when you roll the dice, you'll only find that amazing connection once every 4 or 5 times.

i suppose i'm getting too old for this sh*t as they say in the movies...i don't feel like paying top dollar just for a lay.

sorry dude, your tastes, with one or two exceptions, are definitely not what i'm looking for.

but keep on keepin' on, and play safe!

Since when does the dollar amount determine quality?

Well, what are you  looking for. A great time in bed or a wife?
Looks are subjective but performance usually is not YMMV.

You did?  Hmm... I don't recall the name... If you email me and remind me, perhaps I could also give you some references of ladies that I think might suit you as well.