Think like a copper and try for the lower hanging fruit.

Sounds like your sights are set on the more popular or exclusive providers who naturally are more choosey. There are plenty of “independent” $.5 to $$ providers both on and off the TER radar screen that have the perfunctory web page advertisement with phone number/e-mail that a subsequent higher tier provider can later reference.  

 A lot of recent plebian hobbyists who have cut their teeth exclusively with managed/trafficked, English as a new second language K-Dolls are now finding that their proud litany of experiences are near worthless to a higher tier provider because the validity of the reference received(if at all) from the anonymous, behind the scenes manager/agency is largely unquantifiable.

Lots of noobie friendly ladies on the board. Also suggest you join one of the screening sites such as Date-Check or p411. eom

if you travel...

then you can ask girls like me in London or elsewhere to provide US girl with recent reference

Serena x

...you'll eventually find some newbie friendly ladies who are confident with their screening that will be happy to see you. References aren't the only way to verify someone, so all you need to do is find someone who is willing to do some alternate form of verification. There are plenty of those ladies out there, myself included.

I'd definitely advise against meeting anyone who is willing to see you without ANY info though... in your shoes I'd be afraid of someone who says "Sure, come on over!" is saying that to anyone & everyone who calls, and who knows what type of situation you might find yourself in.  

 
Good luck