I am shocked to see how often a BBFS comment or thread is mentioned on this site. When I started a few years back, it was NEVER mentioned or even considered.

Carelessness has caused me to re-evaluate my business. I must protect myself. I am quite happy with my current clientele and lady peers. I rarely entertain or do doubles with anyone I don't already know now, and see no reason to go outside my circle. My website is being revamped, and I am debating removing all my info by the end of this year. A few things have contributed to these decisions, but the continued BBFS topics/issues and REQUESTS have played a big part in making these changes.

So to the OP, if you haven't run across any dealings with it, good for you, but that doesn't mean it is not happening. The mere fact it is being discussed so often is a clear indication it is going on.

Please play safe everyone.

For too many reasons to list.  Dumb to ask for it.  Dumb to do it.  Dumber if you say you did.

..Wood.

Some guys are stupid for doing it. Some are stupid for bragging about it. Some are stupid for lying about it. I think there's more of that than the first two. As Forrest Gump said. Stupid is as stupid does. .

I am a little surprised that the BBFS discussion even shows up on this board.  BBFS and 15 min meetings go hand and hand in being low class. The ladies might enjoy the company of some of their clients but the probability of them looking at their clients as "the hottest lovers" is very doubtful.
I feel sorry for the girls that have to field any questions or inquiry's about stupid ideas like BBFS and 15 mins of fame. But guys, we can keep this TER board to a higher standard. The majority of us are educated, affluent and reasonable adults so lets behave like so.
I for one like to fly UTR and in known circles. Sure I like to try new things, isn't that one of the reasons we are here, but lets all be smart about it and protect each other.
If a provider wants references, then give them references. If you are new or dont have references, then be nice about it. Offer as much info as you can and then offer for a 2 hr date where you start your meeting at the local star bucks. Think long term in your approach.
Those of us who have been around for a while know we have a good thing going. Just look at the last M&G. But it is all of our responsibility to protect it.
Sorry for the rant. This one just set me off.

...I've never been offered BBFS in the 11 years I've been on TER.  The subject has never even come up.

I was curious about all the talk so I asked some providers if guys ask for BBFS.  All of them said "Yes" and I would be surprised just how many guys ask for it.  They said I'd be even more surprised at the type of guys who ask for it - usually medical professionals.

It seems most of the BBFS talk is from the guys asking for it.  I believe the overwhelming majority of TER providers are responsible women who wouldn't cave in to the pressure.  Of course there are always exceptions, but they are probably very few.

It is sad that some guys feel the need to lie about these things and damage a lady's reputation or potentially put her at risk, but what I find even more sad is that there are many ladies who seem to be okay with either the implication or the act of BBFS.

Whenever I receive a gentleman's screening form, I check his references, and if I am not familiar with either of the ladies, I will check their profiles and quickly scan a few of their most recent reviews to make sure she does not have any unsafe habits that could put me at risk. I realize that some guys don't review their "visits to the dark side", some girls ask reviewers to keep their "dirt on the down low," but at the very least I can screen out the ones that are dumb enough to advertize it.

Very often I will see things that are but a small step short of BBFS. As an example, if the profile says "massage:privates to privates" it is a red flag to me... I then read the review and I often see a description of what could be interpreted as very unsafe practices. To me that is all the confirmation I need that it is better not to risk a meeting.

I have recently read a review that stated "I wanted to take a trip to Greece but she didn't have any lube left, oh well, we did it anyway but slow because she was in pain, then the condom broke so we finished with her hand..." *Clunk* That was the sound of me falling off my chair.  Another review I recently read talks about a "5 minute stripper slide"... I think we might as well call that one BBFS, especially since that "lady" has many, many, many reviews that don't mention the use of condoms at all... Just tons of activities that nobody (man or woman) in their right mind should consider doing with a stranger without protection... But apparently this girl did, and she did it with a lot of men... It is puzzling.

What really bugs me is that many gentlemen who spend time with escorts have families, ergo many of those who either engage in uncovered intercourse or who are meeting women that do that with several (possibly dozens of) men, are also familymen. Yes, we are all just a degree removed from someone who is currently having unprotected sex with someone that we might meet in the future, so even with the best possible safety measures used, everyone is still at risk, paid or unpaid companionship, it is just the reality of our times... But you can reduce your risk by about 95% simply by using condoms. Why do some people still opt against it? Why would you ever put your health and your loved ones' health at risk? I don't care what someone tells you, how "clean" they seem, how recent they claims their tests are, don't be stupid! It only takes a minute to do some irreparable damage to your health. If nothing else holds you back, not the potential pain, the medical bills, the embarrassment, the necessary awkward confession, just remember what a scorned wife is capable of...

Modified: article below deleted due to personal information... but google "wife arranging hit on husband for giving her STD"

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