I don't really hobby anymore but I occasionally enjoy reading the boards to see what's happening in the fun world.  It's a bit disheartening to see the lamentations about forced high scoring , the sniping and the general sense of discontent.  Not that everything was peachy keen when I first discovered this board but I recall the reviews being generally accurate and hobbyists being pretty damned happy to have a place where they could exchange notes with like-minded humans.  Over the course of nearly 100 reviews I got flamed once that I can recall--and I deserved it.  And the thread went for at most 10 exchanges before everyone moved on to a new topic.  And I can remember maybe two ladies asking me for a specific score.

Not trying to blow sunshine up anyone's ass or trample on people's right to bitch but my guess is that everyone on this board has some sort of employment, we get to see ladies who do some pretty amazing stuff for us, we generally treat the ladies well, and none of us is writing our posts from prison or a hospital ward.  

Here's to sunnier days.

I can understand the pressure from both ends.

1. Ladies needing higher scores to continue to bring in steady income.
2. Gents feeling pressure to provide higher scores to remain on provider's good side.

Don't know that there is a simple answer. Too many factors that come into play that are condensed into 2 scores and a few paragraphs.

1. Does he enjoy her interaction via phone/email prior to meeting?
2. How does he feel about her incall?
3. How does he feel about her timing?
4. Does she come close to being that lady in the photo or is it bait/switch situation?
5. Is she your type?
6. How was her performance overall?
7. Is there an instant love connection or did it seemed forced?
8. Did he feel he got his money's worth?
9. Is there a request for a review before he even has time to walk out the door?
10. Finally, will he see her again despite writing a review?
11. Does he feel rushed in writing his review? Some people do not like to write.


Who does the review general benefit?

I try not to sweat reviews too much. We all have various perspectives on our personal experiences. I recall once seeing a client who was extremely sexy and attractive. I felt so nervous that I could not perform as well as I would have. I had a great time. He did not because I was not his type. But rather than telling me that at the door, he decided to have fun and write a bad review.

Now I only worry about how I handle things from my end. Gents will still have their own opinions.

I do, however, sympathize with men who feel the pressure to exaggerate reviews. I feel worse for gents who buy into reviews only to be disappointed when they arrive to see provider.

Again, I think being honest from the beginning would be best. If you do not like the lady or her service...spare her the bad review and save your money.

Kisses

Hey I like Godiva chocolate and may rate it a 10.
Someone else may like snickers bar and rate that a 10.

Who is wrong? Mmmm...different tastes.

Can we all just get along with a false pretense please! Let's not accept any form of dissertation that may make us look bad.

Ask your selfs why would anyone pay attention to a kook, unless that kook makes sense.

I would only rate Godiva a 7 and snickers bar a 5. Yea, our tastes are all different; however, it doesn't account for all the factors that may have caused the widely varying difference in rating. I am not sure if I should post my speculation because it may causes good and harm to the TER community. Many people may have also figured it out and decided to stay silent. I may post a different thread and see how others feel about it.

I will leave you with some parting thoughts:

1. A smart person knows that any form of dissertation to a valid argument can only be used to reinforce it in your favor and not to poke holes in it.
2. Why feel threaten by a fool.
3. You can not fight with reason.

I hope TER takes action against it, because race-baiting incites hatred.  This has been proven in thread after hijacked thread.  It is now the responsibility of TER administration to bring this to an end.

This is (at least for me) is an outlet to reduce stress. I've always been more a reader rather than a poster to the board, so I am not casting aspersions in either direction. But I agree that reading (tall?) tales of exploits in the hobby is more entertaining, and (at least in my case) more stress-reding than stress-inducing...

Just my $0.02.

Cheers (and Happy 4:20 on this Friday afternoon),
BD

I really like your passion and conviction about free speech rights and open conversation. Theoretically, these arguments form the underlying basis for a democratic society. And the same principles could be used here. With that, I agree.

But...there are problems with, and limits to, the theory.

Even though it may be [and I think is] a true and ultimately proper principle, that is not the same as living easily and enjoyably as you use it. The principle works when it comes to fairness and decency over time in an educated and free society.

The problem is that there are great pains and challenges along the way. The principle, in a society, requires the brilliance, courage and strength of people like Gandhi, MLK, Lech Walensa, Susan B. Anthony, Nelson Mandela, Caesar Chavez. These are, to me, among the greatest human beings of the modern world and I look to them for guidance in everything I say and do, as often and dutifully as I can.

The standards and ideals you raise are based on lessons learned from these most brilliant and courageous people and many hundreds of years of wisdom we can trace to Greek literature, the Old and New Testaments, and other sources [including those from Asian and Middle Eastern cultures with which I am less familiar and do not have the educational background to mention quickly and easily, as I do with Western sources of thought].

Now, having said that and acknowledged the nature of history and thought underlying your ideals, there remains the issue of how these principles are translated into use on a message board in this culture.

Is it best to allow and encourage all thought and all forms of expression based on the ideal that by doing so truth will ultimately emerge and we will all benefit?

I am not sure the principle works here.

Why? Because the principle takes time and effort and thought.

And people are mostly only coming here as a distraction or amusement or to find pleasure, or to try and earn a living as best they can. They are not coming here, usually, to improve society and raise the standards of thought and culture - although some do on occasion and, using you as an example, those people become apparent over time.

But since we mostly want to just relax and have a release from stress, or, in the case of providers, earn a living, most of us do not want to deal with the efforts and frustrations of fighting for truth. When people are slandered we just want the nonsense to stop, without having to fight and prove what the lies are. We prefer to avoid the false claims entirely and just talk to one another easily and without the attacks.  

If the attacks and slanderous comments could just be stopped - quickly and easily - that would serve the nature and purpose of this Board more readily than having to debate and prove truth, which takes so much time and effort to do.

Lying about someone is rather easy to do. It takes writing a single line. Then the person lied about is obliged to prove the falsity of the claim. Proving falsity takes effort and time and work. If the lie could simply be avoided or removed, quickly and easily, that would often be the best way to resolve the problem, rather than waiting for truth to emerge. As I watch the way this Board functions, I see how it is edited with both ideals in mind. It is always a challenge to do it well.

Fair enough. The points and hints are taken.

It serves no purpose to continue in the context of this board otherwise there will be no end.

Let's just agree to disagree and move on.

Farewell to all. It has been a blast. This will be my last communique.

Remember: Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense.

It only took a few posts for the name calling and insult hurling to start.  Again, I can't tell other adults what to think, do or say but I want to leave you with this parting thought:  I recently flew two ladies I knew from LA to meet me in Vegas.  Got them a nice room and so on.  We had a wonderful dinner together and enjoyed a delightful conversation. After I took care of some business I was there for we met in my room.  We talked some more over a bottle of champagne.  Then these two wonderful ladies commenced one of the most beautiful, passionate and intense bouts of lovemaking with each other while I watched (Yeah, watching only is my thing now--I will contend til my dying breath there is nothing more beautiful than two women who are into each other having sex with each other).  When I got back to LA I reflected on the week-end and realized that the incredible fun and entertainment I was afforded was due in no small part to this board and reviewers who were able to direct me to these ladies.  So it's hard for me to come on this board and bitch and moan.  I have too many more incredible memories to gain to spend time with a lot of negative energy.  To all the reviewers who gave accurate reviews that led to my Vegas soiree, thank you for good advice.  And to all you sexy ladies who are willing still to indulge an old perv, thanks for making my days a little brighter.

A reliable reviewer!

NDtBF

Dispite the outcome, maybe you should continue to post from time to time. The board could use something different, positive, and value added.

MD