Girls do you ever wonder why we hobby?  I have seen posts on the boards that a lot of providers ask us why?  DO you think you get the real reason?  Here are some reasons:

1.  Wife is fat and ugly and doesnt want to have sex.
2.  Guy is too fat and ugly and wife DOES not want to have sex (never thought about this one right boys?)
3.   Variety?
4.  We want sex with the drama assocaited with dating and sex with a civvie.  Most of the time it becomes drama and we like the no strings attached.
5.  We love sex
6.  Wife or SO will not give BBBJ or CIM (I know plenty of married guys like this).
7.  Wife or SO is a drama Queen
8. Guy is a drama Queen and wife does not want to have sex with a drama King (I think this is a huge factor on these boards)
9.  Guys like the high risk factor....it's exciting and releases crazy shit in our brains (research shows anyway).
10.  All of the above......

SO now you have it....10 top reasons why we (guys) see providers.  Some the guys will agree on and some the guys will not confess to...

May the force be with all the Key-Board warriors that will reply with some judgemental comments.

Thank you.....I'm in my office and I'm typing fast before my assistant seeing what website I'm on and wants to start sucking my cock.  I can see her now....honey...what are you doing?  I'll take care of you if you would like.....WOW.  I learned NEVER to do that.  :  

Guys who can't, or don't know how to meet civie women and get laid.

From what hobbyists have told me... one of the most important reasons for dating escorts is finding human connection; fostering chemistry and experiencing passion that is lacking in a current relationship. I think many men hobby to fill an emotional void, seeking out affection and tenderness.

Being able to fill that void is one of my favorite parts of escorting. I love making others feel attended to and cared for!

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I also seem to fill the void but what happens when you see a client every week for months that become years and one, if not both, fall into a deeper and genuine kind of love?

I fell for an escort years ago, and she fell for me. It was all wrong, and it didn't work out. I blame myself primarily; but even if I were not at fault, it wasn't going to work out anyway. Unless the woman is willing to quit the trade and pledge to be monogamous, most men won't put up with her hooking. And from the woman's viewpoint, does she want to marry or establish an exclusive relationship with a client who very likely is cheating on his wife or SO to be with her? And is likely seeing several escorts? What's to keep him from straying after they get together, especially as she gets older? There are always exceptions, but most people who fall in love are hardwired to demand exclusivity, and prostitution is the last place to find that.

How about...on line dating website, bar, store....church (just saing), work (bad idea), there are many many more.  I just met a girl at the book store, looking for a magazine....we started talking and we exchanged numbers.   You can met a civie chick anywhere....the problem comes when you have sex with her, you might not be able to get rid of her.....that's where the problem comes in to play.  By the way....this is NOT putting down women at ALL.   I bet ALL the providers reading this will agree.  Some guys are the same way.....once women sleep with them they call the women every five minutes and don't know what to do with themselfs.  I'm sure you women can attest to that.  Right?

Great point !!

Be very carefull of that....don't go down tht road.   Friendship is great....but when you start talking about loving another provider you have to be VERY carefull.  Is it LOVE or LUST or a missing void?  That's an interesting discussion point......

That's exactly what I was saying.  Been there and done that...WOW.  Not a good raod to travel down.  I's one and a million to get that to work.  There are WAY too many variables involved.  We've all heard the stories....An older friend once told me.....(this is NOT by me):  Men become more valuable with age and women loose thier value with age.  It's kinda like a car.  Men tend to make more money as we get older and become much more marketable, women on the other hand tend to get older, lose sex drive, and loose value.  Remember Key-Board Warriors this is NOT my quote.

For me, it's because I want to experience life to the fullest.  And having the kinds of encounters that hobbying provides is one way to build an amazing set of experiences.

Sure, there are other ways to have these kinds of encounters, but IMO, they all either:
-Require too much of a time investment;
-are too risky health-wise;
-or are too risky emotionally/socially (i.e. strings are attached, or it requires deception, or there's a higher risk of discovery)
...compared to hobbying.

Plus, with the advent of the internet and sites like TER, the ability to cast a wide net, do research, and find/get exactly what you're looking for, with someone who on their end is also getting exactly what they're looking for, is absolutely unmatched by any other method.  

(caveat: This is only true because a) I can afford it, and b) I only make smart decisions while hobbying, and c) I'm willing to accept the specific set of risks that even smart hobbying entails.)

You gave ten reasons why MEN see providers. Not ten reasons why YOU see providers.
I just added a reason which I felt you missed) which is actually very big reason why many men see providers. You don't need to come back arguing how easy it is for YOU to meet a civie woman. For many men it just is not that easy. Shyness. Introverted. Afraid of rejection. Ugly. Fat. Small dick. Disabled. Whatever. Not everyone can easily strike up a conversation in the bookstore. But anyone with money can pay and know what they are getting, and not get rejected. Just saying.

Hobbying is the fastest means to an end. Dating takes time and money. Hobbying just takes money and your ROI (return on investment) is guaranteed!  

That's my reason.

My dearest beauties and fellow hobby community.  How about it's fun?  Can be tender, can be a passionate, can be WTF, but mostly, it can be fun.  Anyone onboard for good old Fun?  Life is short...fun helps.....

You are absolutely right! I know so many guys with stupid and expensive hobbies and yet they're always complaining about how they just don't seem to have fun like they used to.  Well, this is my (secret) hobby and I'm having the time of my life. I've met some truly amazing women and shared many wonderful moments. My only regret is that these days I'm somewhat financially limited.  But this hobby has kept me feeling young and sensual and alive and everything in my personal and family life is better since I started doing this. I'm a happier person, I'm more creative and more positive in my outlook on life.  Great sex is the worlds best stress reliever.

Wife no longer wants sex and is fullfield after kids. I think thant is pretty commenn.

How about women are just plain beautiful! And wanting to know a beautiful lady is just primal instinct.
One of the best ways to keep a relationship alive is to ask questions. Often after being in a relationship for a long time we think we know our partner and stop asking about what they like or think. The hobby provides a blank slate that is the beginning of a new adventure. In the beginning we are more forgiving about the "small" stuff because we want to see whats ahead. But after awhile with your mate, you realize that there may not be many more exciting adventures ahead and the small stuff starts to consume each other which leads to just about all of the reasons listed above.

I hobby because life is all about the adventure, So start living life!

I can definately relate to that.

well said