outright impudence reigns in this hobby..

These guys want WL without lifting fingers to write a review? What are they? Forest Dumb?

would never ask a lady to white list me w/o promising to review her, unless she herself requests no review

In my opinion, one has nothing to do with the other

It is my understanding that reviews of providers is for hobbyists to find out if the provider is a good fit for their liking or expectations but white listing a client/hobbyist is to show if that person is safe and not LE, etc  

Am I missing something here? I've been a member of TER since 2001 and have never posted on the board or reviewed a provider and I don't see why I should be felt compelled to. If I ask a provider for white listing it's because I want to not have to ask them for a reference to another provider. Am I wrong?  

This goes to show you how upset I was when I read your post that I broke my silence of 12 Years.  

IMO seems safer to give white listings only to gentlemen providers have seen more than once... how can one truly vouch for another's character & integrity after only a single one or two hour meeting?

I'm white-listed by a number of ladies. But, I question the value.

Every one, without exception, of the, shall we say, "high-end" ladies I've visited still want/prefer a recommendation from one or two other providers they can contact. A white listing isn't enough.  

A "tip" for newbies: Anytime I've asked a lady I've seen to recommend me to another lady, I make sure to email her first and ask her if it's okay. More than one has thanked me for asking first and said very few guys ask, they just assume she'll recommend them.  A little courtesy goes a long way, it seems.