I very rarely work these days, as I am doing other things pretty much full time.....When I do finally agree to visit with someone "new", go through all of the screening, etc., I would like to think they respect my time....Just so rude, and frustrating.....

Anyhow......I am around for outcall only, and will take a reasonable discount.....E-mails only please, no PM's......I also need all of your screening information, in your FIRST e-mail.......I will be around tomorrow as well (Friday the 13th, YIKES!!)....Should I dare???.

Have a great night, everyone!!.

Melanie~ Xo

I rarely cancel, but I also rarely make appointments days in advance.  When I did, I found my work schedule changed or I woke up with a mild cold so I had to (or decided I should) cancel a few times, and I was not "proud" of that, if that is the right word.  So now I make appointments the day of, which does limit my accss to a lot of ladies.

It seems to be a lot of flu sick men out there...maybee men get more sick than women...

I asked myself the same question...why men change their mind the last second...?

I have maybee cancelled an appointment twice in my life as a escort. I am always on time. I do my best to accomodate a schedule that works for people that wants to meet me.

I noticed that the ones who schedule way in advance or the ones who asks for special outfits etc. are more likely to cancel. So the ones with more requests seem to not know what they want in the end.

Very tiring.

I have so many nice clients though and that makes me love what I do.

To the men who doesnt know what they want; figure it out before you make the call!!

xoxo Jessica

Life happens, business problems, death, illness, family drama ect... You just gotta get over it if he has a legitimate excuse. I usually offer to reschedule once but after the second "excused cancel" I put him on my blacklist.

But in regards to the d*bags who cancel just to cancel they don't deserve to see a woman as gorgeous as you are.

I wouldnt get fustrated its just part of the biz sometimes more important things than sex come up,although last min cancelation isnt fun i personally believe eveything happens for a reason!anyway based on your picture i am sure no one would intentionally want to cancel on you

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I'm in the same boat as Duane, I used to always schedule days in advance but soon found the hectic schedule of the day job got in the way of the best made plans. So I limit even contacting a new lady to just a day or two before the day and then only make the appointment the day of.  It has really limited the number of quality ladies I see but I feel it is better not to make an appointment at all than to cancel. I hate people who do not do what they say. I recently canceled on a very nice lady I had seen before about an hr before our time but made it up by sending her the full donation. I still feel that was not enough and think that canceling is a worse thing than just the time wasted.

I canceled on on a TER lady in this forum a full day before our meet because of a very bad cold (I rarely get a cold and was hoping it would go away). Our email and phone exchanges got very ugly. She was perhaps the reason I do not make appointments more than a day in advance.

my mind drifts to football

I have also been on the other side of a cancellation (on several occasions) where the provider canceled.
I generally consider it part of life.. However I would hope there would be a little "make it up" when you rescheduled. Of the several who canceled on me and I saw later there was not even "I'm sorry".

I guess the providers get a little tainted because of all the jerks out there.

I repsect peoples time, cost and effort to see me. I know my time with some is special and fun and I also realize its also ones business. I always book in advance, as my Calendar is always in advance ( I guess I am lucky) , so I know my schedule.
I have a rule, I know its old fashioned, but of course I am.
If I have to cancel an appointment last minute, then I will forward my donation to the provider.  If she wishes to keep it on account and use it later when I can see her, OK, if not, then the donation is hers.
OK, call me crazy, but call me an old world gentleman. That is how I work and how I respect providers and the joy that they provide me. Nuf said!

I need to amend my emial on one thing. This is after I have seen the provider once and wish to see her again.

NCNS is not in my playbook.

I have found that it seems to be an "LA" thing, speaking as a NYer, that people here do not keep their word.  I find that unfortunate.  

This is to both the gals and the guys:  If you say you will be somewhere, just be there unless you end up sick or someone has died.  If there is even the slightest chance you might not make the appointment then, like the wonderfully thoughtful guys who chimed in earlier in the conversation, don't schedule unless you are sure you can make it.

A very sweet client of mine once had to cancel a two hour date with me, and he sent me flowers the next day as a way to apologize, which went a long way with me (we girls are such suckers).  But its unfortunate when people dick you around, especially because so many gals depend on this for their main source of income.  It took me dealing with 2 different boys (they are not men in my eyes) doing that whole "fantasy outfit request thing" to realize that some guys just love to mess around by screwing other people over.  I didn't realize that was something some guys do until I read this thread.

Bottom line:  KEEP YOUR WORD BECAUSE YOUR SIGNATURE IS ON EVERYTHING YOU DO!

By definition, the earlier in advance a client books an appointment, the higher the probability that he/she will cancel.  Fewer things can come up if I book an appointment an hour in advance vs. 3 weeks in advance.  Don't know why this is so difficult to understand...

Providers need to understand that clients can only do so much research before making the initial contact.  At the end of the day, this business is about human interaction.  The fact that you have been able to get along with other clients, good reviews, and a nice website doesn't really help me understand how you and I will interact.  I may not get along with providers that everyone else likes.  The only way I can figure out if we're a good fit is if I actually get in touch with you.  I don't book appointments when the provider calls me "sweetie" or "hunnie" instead of using my name or doesn't answer my questions in her reply. This indicates that she's either too lazy/busy to actually write an original email to me.  That's a red flag for me.

Second, most appointment bookings nowadays are done using email...with phone calls done at the last minute to confirm or provide location details.  You learn more about someone during a phone/face to face conversation than during an email conversation.  I've cancelled appointments at the last minute when I called the providers the day of the appointments to confirm and realized that we wouldn't get along.  Saved me the time and expense of having a bad experience.  If you want to limit last minute cancellations, then encourage verified clients to call you in advance of the appointment.  For providers, I would hope that a 15 minute phone call a day or so before the appointment is better than the stress, aggravation and cost of a cancellation.
 
Honestly though, providers pull the same crap all the time.  I've been lied to and jerked around enough by flaky, dishonest well-reviewed providers that I'm not sympathetic whenever I have to cancel on someone.   It's happened to me before and it'll happen to me again.

Thanks for explainig this mystery about mens fantasies...I agree the straightforwrd ones are the best clients and they are all about the meeting not talking about it.

xoxo Jessica

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That is such a waste of every bodys time. I like the ones who understand mutual respect of each other and understand the nature of the business.

I pay $ 2000 dollars in advertising per month. So there is no time for no shows. I register them and they will not get a second chance to meet up.