If my references aren’t good enough, I’ll move on to another lady.

There are a lot of great, honest and well reviewed providers who ask for real world info.  So, I'm missing out.  There's a couple of ladies where I may acquiesce to giving my info, but not yet.

I totally respect the absolute right of any provider to take whatever steps she feels are necessary to protect herself. Period. Full stop.

But I do the same, and will never give real id.