A provider wants me to send her a copy of my drivers license. She said I could cover up my ID number, but everything else has to show up. I’ve given my drivers license plenty of times, but I’ve always covered up the ID number and my home address. She won’t let me cover my home address. To me this is a bit intrusive and could create a  where I’m being stalked at home or she threatens to post my home address on TER unless I give her additional money. Am I being paranoid? or am I being sensibly cautious?

I feel uncomfortable even showing the pic on my license.

never do that!

What's wrong with showing a license.

To a police officer, nothing.
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To a bank teller or liquor store clerk, nothing.  
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To a prostitute engaged in an illegal business who is using an alias, everything. Is she willing to show you hers first? If not, why not? Essentially you’re giving your personal identifying information to a complete stranger. A lot of guys take the risk. Not me. There are too many great ladies who don’t demand that type of information for me to take the risk.

two words .............. Moving On.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you providing your DL. And feel free to give your social security # and all your credit card info too. Its safe and nothing can go wrong. Also to prove your not a bastard , provide copy of your parents marriage certificate too.....Perfectly safe.

that you will think about sending her yours after she sends you a copy of her's.  

Your feelings are understandable, but to educate you, she should only be viewing two things while looking at the ID. The first is asking your full legal name to confirm you know it, while looking at the front of it, and you at the same time, so she knows you're not bogus. The other is turning over the back side of it to see what it says. Most people don't know this, but I found out DMV stamps the DL with every cop; it will say "law enforcement".

You’re simple looking at the id & doing zero vetting for your safety. As a lifestyle Domina most police will not take the time to attempt to bust a well trained Mistress. Police 👮 who bust are not using their real ID on stings.