Not able to "PM" , the site will not allow. I clicked the tiny envelope ..... I assume this means "personal message" or maybe "private message"...or.....

You have posted about your personal case quite a bit over the past two months, and the story has been told.  You have received numerous replies to your questions, and you have interacted with the other posters on the board. All of this is good.

However, please stop parsing out your case into segments of issues that come to your mind and posting them as single posts to the board.  This is redundant and amounts to a Q&A about specific pieces of a puzzling puzzle out of context of the whole.  I have pulled your last few posts for this reason.  The only way any of those posts could have been adequately responded to would be to rehash the whole story in each thread.

I have reviewed your posting history, starting with 2006.  Giving you a large benefit of the doubt here, I am offering you this:

If you have these questions again, or want to post regarding whatever version of your specific case, please post them as a response to this post.  Judging from the board activity, this thread will remain on the 1st page for about eight days.  After that, I will continue to review the thread (I will be notified if you post in reply to this post), and if you have an issue that can generate a discussion for the board, I will re-post as an original thread.

I hope this will actually help you consolidate all of the information you seek, for whatever reason, into one place while at the same time keeping the board from becoming cluttered with one - three post threads.

Of course, I encourage all posters to respond to Cathy's posts to this thread with any helpful input.  ANY DEROGATORY POSTS regarding Cathy based on this post will be pulled and the poster's username will be forwarded to Admin for moderation.

Good luck

I love that idea DC.  Saves lots of hassle for everyone,  
I also thank everyone for their informative & helpful responses. I cannot tell you how helpful it has been, not only to me personally , hence,  the information and Insight could  help  prevent someone else from being hurt.