Banged a chick in a one-time sugar daddy arrangement. Bad sex, uncomfortable, etc.  Now she's texting me saying she's "heard about other women you've done this with" and demanding $$ to "keep your secrets." Any advice welcome; pretty damn sure I'm NOT paying her, but curious on how best to handle it.

as a sugar daddy relationship implies somewhat of a long term relationship.

In any case, not paying her would be the best course of action.

Blackmail, otherwise known as extortion, is a very serious felony.

If she does not relent, you might want to contact a lawyer who can advise you how to work with the police to put her away.

It might blow your cover, but it would be the lesser of both evils.

Most of the time, these are just threats and they never carry them out.

Best of luck.

(still not a lawyer)

As I said, had No intention of ever paying her. Of course, I just got a text msg. saying, "just kidding, etc., etc."  Really just interested in other hobbyists' experiences with this type of matter. Basically, i think she's just got some type of personality disorder (I'm betting on bipolar, but, who knows?) Live and learn.....all part of a full-time hobbyists' day......

Somehow, I just bet she was not a "well reviewed provider".  Avoid the stress next time.
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I've never heard of a well reviewed provider pulling this kind of stunt.

I saw a MP gal off campus for some extra curricular stuff, but she turned out to be a whack job, so I told her not to call any more.

She started leaving messages that she was going to start coming to my home and office if we didn't keep having our dates, but I just ignored her and she finally disappeared.

It was quite unpleasant, that's for sure.

basically just lookin' for feedback. And, no, she wasn't a "well-reviewed provider" but a short term sugar daddy-type project.  Better to stick to professionals, but, sometimes we all make mistakes.

Have ignored her thus far, and will continue to do so in the future.

What I don't understand is how you consider something a "sugar daddy-type project" without ever having the intention of paying her. If this is your typical, run of the mill 'Hobbyist' stuff you have to deal with, then would it be safe to assume that you two met under the premise of such an understanding?

Given these factors, I have to wonder what she meant when she said "I've heard you've done this to other girls.." I assume "this" means.. ?? And no. It's not a legal question. Unless either of you make it one.

I think he meant he wasnt going to pay on her blackmailing.  I think he did pay for their time the first time.  And now she wants him to keep giving her money.  And she was possibly insinuating that he has seen other gals and she is gonna rat him out.  Or he could have stiffed her and thats what she meant by "hear you have done this before".  But I am banking on she got money, she assumes he doesnt want anyone to know he does 1 or more gals and thinks she is gonna get some easy money.  I really hate when people do that kinda thing.  Its like, put out or get out.  If you dont like doing the deed find another area to work.  I, myself, love what I do almost most of the time.  Stay safe.

I wasn't clear on my original post, I suppose. We got together as (what I thought) would be an occasional thing. A fee for services arrangement; she sent me text msgs (which she later claimed to be "joking") wherein she demanded cash so she wouldn't let out my "secret"; namely, that she wasn't the only girl I had done this sort of thing with.

While I believe the pay-for-play arrangement should remain private between two consenting adults, I also know that "blackmailers" lose all power over the individual when he simply says, "OK, tell whoever you want to about our tryst."

I never stiff my partners in this sort of thing (just as I'd never stiff a provider).  She was, I believe, taking a flyer on my being scared and giving in to her demand for further funds without providing further services. Pretty weak, when you actually think about.  Besides, I saved ALL of HER text msgs arranging our tryst. As Stephie said, she thought she'd get easy money.......which I was NEVER gonna give her based upon threats.  It would've been so much easier to just keep hooking up instead. Oh, well,live and learn.

Well you come out to san diego and I will show you what fun can be really had if you just find that right someone to have it with.... I bet I could give it a hell of a go.   xoxo