No, I wasn't on the OJ jury

But, I still have concerns about the legal system and the way it treats DNA testing and evidence in general.

Scenario #1:
Support I have sex with a woman with a condom.  The condom doesn't break.  But, she then uses the condom in some manner to impregnate herself.  The DNA tests will show I was the father but why should I have to pay child support.  If she never admits to doing that, and claims we didn't use condoms, i have no way to disprove her theory.

Scenario #2:
Suppose I win the lottery. Someone decides to get a big payday for themselves.  They get a sample of my DNA, go to some lab and manufacture DNA evidence - maybe to be used in a rape claim, maybe used to impregnate themselves or someone else, something that they think would get them a big payday.  Considering that the technique developed in Tel Aviv can be done in ANY biology lab, including a local college, all they need is some biology student who needs money to accomplish this.  I'm screwed.

Scenario #3:
Suppose I get stopped by the cops for something.  Maybe I fit the description of a rapist, or a murderer, or a pedophile, or whatever.  They become absolutely convinced that I'm the person they want, but they have no forensic evidence.  They get a sample of my DNA, go to a lab (again, a local college biology lab will do) and have forensic evidence manufactured.

In all 3 scenarios, I'm screwed even though I didn't do anything wrong.  Btw, #3 was used recently on a tv show (I think Law&Order) and what prompted me to start looking at this.  Not because I'm really scared this will happen to me but because I'm something of a knowledge sponge with too much time on his hands.  

But, in any event, all three scenarios are pretty damn scary... And there's no way for the poor schmo who gets caught up in it to prove otherwise.  All he has is his assertion that he didn't do it and we all know that everyone, even the truly guilty, says they're not.

In my opinion, the legal system is so far behind technology that it wouldn't surprise me to learn that the system fails 9 out of 10 times.

ask for documentation.

if she's really pregnant, it's a gamble to wait for the dna but FIRST get proof she's actually pregnant before you start offering money to terminate the pregnancy.

here's why i think this is important:

i'm sure she realizes you will insist upon the dna test but regardless,  she can't get a child support order until after the child is born so it's stupid to threaten a guy that you're going to get one when you first find out your pregnant because that gives the guy 9 months to transfer his assets. .. no way is any provider going to be 100% sure without the test anyway.

if she insists upon having the child against your wishes, i wouldn't blame you for transferring all your assets over to my name and claim that you're destitute so that the support order would be low.

i could sue you for mental distress because you posted this upsetting  question and as as long as you dont show up for court, i could win a judgement and attach your wages and then win-win for us and lose-lose for that horrible scammer.  (that's a joke, sort of)

the most important thing we havent yet discussed is what state are you in sweetie ?

child support is based upon income and the formula differs by state. some states are non-wage garnishable. texas, pennsylvania, florida, maybe nevada and i think massachusettes is weird too. i dont know if that applies to child support orders though. actually, never mind i just looked and all states allow garnishment for child support.


if she's telling the truth, at least you can be glad you got plenty of warning.

tell her you just got transferred to canada.

what she's doing isn't fair so don't even think for a minute that you have to be fair to her. she was paid for a no strings encounter and now she's trying to ROPE you for the next 18 years.  that's BREACH OF CONTRACT.

if all else fails, SKIP OUT