anyone have any experience with being extorted by a provider who insists on further payments after a sugar daddy relationship has long gone sour???     Client illness is involved, and he prior told woman that it would come to and end in 6 months because of health, but he would support till then.   As date nears, she is angrier and angrier and threatening.   A feral woman. albeit very beautiful, and the little head was in charge way too long.   But generosity was considerable.......very considertable.......ideas.... he will speak to  lawyer asap    any others ??

and suprisingly, extortion is a much more serious offense than taking money for sex. Police are very interested in this type of crime and will usually look the other way at the sex/pay aspect. All relations of this type, usually between married men and providers should be exited with discretion to avoid this sort of problem, although easier said than done. When this sort of thing happens one realizes that you were a mark and it was the provider who was using you, not visa versa. More comment to follow should you need them...

Many thanks for your comments...I have spoken with my attorney, which is in agreement with you. I am not characterologically one to leave a person in the lurch, so that when my health was failing I spoke of the end in 6 months.  She avoided seeking other sources,  spent some excess of money i allotted her (stupid me) but i AM kind....i finally withdrew money, and said look, you have two months, and allowance is limited to X    lotsa noise and threats....nothing in a few days...hope she comes to her senses.  mAY CALL UPON YOU FOR MORAL SUPPORT.

Bad news never improves with age.  Paying her off is not an option & she has tipped her hand that she may not go quietly into the night.  What's the saying about providers...  you don't pay them to come, you pay them to leave after.  SHE'S breaking the rule...  
HE needs to consult an attny asap.
Keep records of any threats.  Keep record of as much as is known of her real identity.
Break off contact.  Block her email & phone and any more she creates.  
Do not let her in HIS HOME.  Warn her off the first time, call Police after that.  
The atty will advise on LE involvement though sometimes an Atty letter will scare her off.  

This is big league & playing for keeps.

My view is that your obligation to her ends at the point that she begins to insist that your obligation to her cannot end. Or to put it another way, when thank yous change to demands, you no longer owe her anything. In fact, as a practical matter, you should have cut her off cold as soon as that happened. It sends a very clear message that you will not be bullied, threatened or otherwise coerced, and any attempts to do that will have the opposite effect.

Yes, then she will come back with one more demand to which you will reply along the lines of, "Sorry, but I cannot let you play this game. If you decide to go further with it, I will inform the police. On the other hand, if you had thanked me for my generosity, shown some consideration for my situation and some appreciation for what we shared, I might have been more kindly to you, but your behavior has made it very clear what this means to you and I am just reacting to that. Any obligation I had to you ended when you began to demand more than my already very generous offer."

There are two sides to this - legal and managing the person. The legal is pretty clear - if she threatens, you call the cops. The personal side is not as clear, but as previously stated, you are being used. The only message that works there is a very clear one that you are not being used any more, and will not be used again. Period. Say it and mean it. You will need to repeat it a few times, but once she believes you, she will quickly move on to look for another chump. You are only of interest to the degree she perceives you as offering a quick and easy source of funds.

Zig