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i am literally walking out of my house today due to an abusive SO, my
needrealhelp 6647 reads
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1 / 8

dad is taking me and whatever i can carry.  i have taken pictures of the contents of MY HOME (LITERALLY EVERYTHING IS MINE) but i have to leave TODAY
i have no key to my house nor MY own car keys

what can I do?  i just neet to get out now to be safe and i know i shouldnt care about material things but its MINE

do i call the cops after i leave to get him out of my house?

really anyone that can help please

xtheory 2 Reviews 5072 reads
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2 / 8

The cops are the least helpful people most of the time.  I would contact a lawyer and ask how you should proceed.  Either way you did the right thing by getting out.  What you should do is round up as many close guy friends as you possibly can and have them escort him off the property.  It might also be helpful to start restraining order proceedings against him, especially if he is physically abusive.  Above all, remember things can be replaced.  You, however, can't.

Rickshaw17 28 Reviews 3983 reads
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3 / 8

If you are married to this guy, go immediately to a family lawyer who can instigate formal legal-separation/divorce proceedings for you. If you are not married to this guy, consider filing charges against him. He cannot confiscate your house and belongings. That's theft at a minimum.  He is also now tresspassing if you are not married to him and this is your house.

shudaknownbetter 5520 reads
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4 / 8

Take your papers, titles and such if you can.  Then get out.
You need a lawyer & quickly.  Get him served ASAP, file copies with local LE & have the locks changed.  Be sure to secure any non-traditional entry points like celar windows, back doors, sliding doors (lay a measured board in the tracks).  
You can request that LE be present if you allow him back in to remove personal items.  Do not start an altercation but have a camera handy to document anything he takes, especially items that are not his.  You could appoint a representative to witness this if you do not want to be there yourself.
Or you can gather his toothbrush & dity laundry & leave it for him somewhere.  I left a box of things with my ex's mother once I was out of her house although she never returned personal things to me.  
This will be a tough time & there's no way to make it easier.  Doing the right steps will minimize the pain, that is all.
Best Wishes,
skb

ThePeopleRule 4072 reads
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5 / 8

If your SO has been merely verbally abusive, then the cops may well not get involved.  However, some departments are preventative; you should have tried calling them before you moved out.

If you were battered and there is physical evidence of that on your body, often the guy will be arrested and booked.  Then you could have changed the locks and contacted an attorney.

I suggest you contact the police now.  If you are to receive immediate (today/tomorrow) help it will be from law enforcement.  A civil action filed by an attorney will take more time.

mistressjessica 4961 reads
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6 / 8

with an 8 month old baby.. I ended up leaving her too after he proved he would kill me no matter the cost..

I left the state. on a bus. no cloths, car, money or place to go. ( there are many places that will help you, you are not alone)

I never ever thought I would get through it.
after about 6 months I was glad I left and the shakes had stopped, I could eat again and I was safe..

I started working on me..

21 years later I know that I did the right thing. Hold your head high.. TAKE CARE OF YOU.
THe rest of it IS STUFF! just STUFF all things you can and will replace..

feel free to email me anytime..
today I have 2 beautiful boys. My daughter knows the truth, although, I am not her mom anymore. I have a degree and I am comfortable with ME,. I am alive, I am safe and I am able to stand on my own..

dfwjim123 9058 reads
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7 / 8

For the long run, you should move away.  If the house is yours, sell it.

For now, you need someone helping you out.  Need a lawyer and a temporary place to stay.

tuesday4u See my TER Reviews 4969 reads
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8 / 8

hi..
I recently went thru the same thing.
i left ...and lost it all too.

read my post in the providers board.

good luck.

tuesday



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