I was involved with a client whom over past ten months began helping me so much I wasnt really takin many appts. they gave me first n last for new apt. they paid my 1650 rent out right and were just helping so much, i was barely working. Tghings got very confusing, this guy ended up on disability going thru we didnt know if it be chemo or radiation for hidgkins, i let him stay with me thru treatmenst and we did alot of fruit fasts, i hand cooked brown rice, care took for him, went to hosital toever treatment, we went movies every day while he was collectn disability n had great time, then his wife began coming to house, his mother, i recieveed death threats from the brother, the whole family was verbally inc=sulting me calling me white trash home wrecker. whore. the brother said he d kill me fi ever saw me, i had plants in front porch smashed, then wife went haverill police dept on me. the mother called me crying pleading with me to leave her son alone! i have been tryn to break it off with him ten months, when i do i recieve horrible emails saying "youl get whats coming to you!" and "what goes around comes arpound. !" I end up so scared i kiss his ass cuz i honestly dont wAnt any more problems, but i am living in fear his wife has threatened me also said i dont know who ui am messin with, he recently before chrost,mas after i serviced him all motnth , all a sudden bailed with the help. then began asking me for things, actually, I am atkn limited appts now due to recent neck strain i had workn out too much with my new weight bench, I dont know what to do. I forwraded the emails to friends and hoped theyd maybe email him to defend me and tell him to stop. I blocked three different phone numbers of his this week alone form calling me, now the scary emaisl calling me a cunt and saying i will never be hapopy and he hopes my heart get rips out like i did to him. I do know he s on a few different medications including wellbutrin for depression and like three others. I just dont know , I cant go police cuz i dont want to sraw attention to myself. but I am scared if i stay longer w him his wife will hav me killed. but if i get away i am scared he will come after me now jugding by the last email saying i will get whats coming to me! wwhat do i do? should i print out emails n save in case i am attacked in stairwell one day in my apt building? what do i do?

it sure shows that sometimes you can be too good to the wrong people. Sure you can go to the police and reveal these facts but if you are really in fear you should pick up and leave town to avoid additional problems. This is not unusual with escorts, a good friend of mine actually left the country to avoid a pimp who was determined to get her to work for him and he would have killed her otherwise. I don't know how serious these people who are troubling you are but if I were you I would pack my bags and move to an escort friendly town or city and start over.

Life is not a bowl of cherries, or chocolates as Forest would say, it is a real toilet of excrement at its worse, but there are plumbers who can make the mess go away. Unless you have to stay put, start packing. If you cannot leave town then it might be worth it to talk to a friendly cop or attorney. Which reminds me how useful it is to have a nice cop on the client roll. Legal recourse for threat is a real problem, especially if you are involved in criminal activities, i.e. sex for pay. Rather then send you on an possibly expensive and definitely problematic course, I would tell you that if you are serious about being at risk, then protect yourself by fleeing the situation. Your problem is not a test of courage, it is  a question of survival, take the high road and protect yourself.

Oh yes, usually when the guy moves out, is on drugs (that keep his sex drive pointed south), and back with his family, the whole thing often will die down and become history, but that takes a bit of time. I know what it is like to get those neck strains from too much lifting, you need a good trainer to teach you how to do it correctly, usually you have to keep your feet on the ground when you bench. Better to have a sore neck from too much oral and a full wallet. You win the award of the escort with the heart of gold for 2011! There are more of you out there I know having met your kind before. Maybe you should consider nursing if you leave the biz?

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Moving would be the best course.
I you can not move, I would see about an atty (possibly through a Women's Group).  The guy is a former intimate partner.  You could have every one who threatened you get a restraining order.  A lawyer is adviseable so some agressive cop does not press you on how you met.  It does not matter how you met.  Do not talk to the Police without your lawyer.  Your lawyer might be able to be the go between in facilitating an agreement.  You never see him again & they stop the harrassment.  I do consider this dangerous...  there is more than one & they can get each other wound up & do foolish things.
Again, moving is preferable, but if not change your locks.  Secure any back ways into your space.  

You should probably change your work phone & only see previous clients...  be extra careful.  

You should save any threats & communications for your atty.  Do not answer them.  Screen all your calls...  do not pick up until you know who it is.  Or leave a message & call back.