Bear with me, this takes a bit to explain.  I really am trying to understand exactly what I did wrong (since the provider in question has placed the blame on me).  I will not mention the provider's name as I told her during numerous emails I would not and I keep my word.

I researched out independents in Las Vegas for this trip.  Chose one with impeccable reviews.  Made contact after a couple weeks and set up a date for the 1st.  She was nice enough to push our date back a day when my flight was cancelled.  We exchanged numerous emails and she gave me her number and told me to call when I arrived.

On the 2nd, I kept in contact via email throughout the day to let her know where I was as I moved from city to city, airport to airport.  Also to finalize plans for a 4 hou dinner date, complete with her bringing a friend along for added fun.  The whole day, I received no return emails.  When I got into town, I checked in to my hotel and received an email from her saying my emails had been going into a spam folder all day for some reason and to let her know when I arrived.  So I called her, using the number she gave me and according to her instructions.  Got her voicemail so left a message.  Since it was late in the day, cancelled the friend as I thought it was too late to schedule her now.  Called a little later left another message.  When the time for the date arrived, no one showed.  I gave her 1/2 hour before sending an email this time.  She sends another email telling me her phone is in a friend's gym bag and that she can still make it but it will be about 1 1/4 hours before she'll be ready and arrive.  I sent an email back saying come on and I waited.  Somehow, that email never made it.  So the night was a wash.

Next day, we connect up again by email.  She says it was all timing and miscommunication.  I didn't let her know I was in town so she figured I wasn't.  She is available on Thursday and it's reserved for me.  Cool I think.  She tries calling me but I was in a business function and didn't hear my phone.  When I get her voicemail later, I call and left a voice mail, then when I got back to my room, I sent a fairly long email because trying to get together on Thursday will present some scheduling difficulties (a family member flew in to town unexpectedly).  I laid out all the options to see if another go at a 4 hour dinner date might work for her (fully realizing that I wasn't able to allow for much flexibility - afterall, I am in town for business).

Today, I emailed throughout the day to let her know of my business schedule, when it was ok for a call and when email would be more appropriate.  No emails.  No voicemails.  All day long.  I had no expectation of her being available according to my schedule -- my only expectation was that she would communicate to me whether it would work for her.

Finally, when it is apparent that there is no way this will work out, I wrote an email in which I questioned how she came by such stellar reviews.  Not because of her performance (I have no way to judge that), but because of what I would call a lack of professionalism in not giving the simple courtesy of a call or email saying "hey, this won't work for me".  Her response -- again, my fault.  She says I'm expecting her to be available 24/7 to respond to calls or email and to be available to meet with me whenever I want.  And that she was planning to call at 8 p.m. (which seems kind of late to check on a 4 hour dinner date).

What did I do wrong?  I like this hobby and try to do things right, so your thoughts and ideas would certainly help.

As a fellow hobbyist I see nothing you did wrong.  I had a similar experience when I was in Vegas last December.  I think its just the nature of the business.  Don't let it bother you just move on.

You are under no obligation to not reveal her name since she did not keep her word to meet you.

It's a business and she did not deliver as promised. You can't submit a review since she no showed. So you do have a responsibilty to the guys to help her from doing this again, and help the guys from going through what you went through.

against you:
1) Your scheduling and availability changes too much.  This keeps you from having a solid date/time set way in advance so your provider of choice has enough time to prepare and get ready for whatever you two had planned.  She can't drop what she's doing at the moment and come to the date unprepared.

2) You probably communicated too much.  Not everyone is as connected as you seem to be.  Depending on how popular she is, she could be getting hundreds of emails a day and numerous phone calls/voicemails.  People have lives and need to get on with their lives.  She can't be expected to wait indefinitely for each message.

3) If you really wanted this to happen with all the problems you had, I would say you should leave a deposit with her in advance so she takes more effort to keep in touch.

for you:
It's your money and you can choose to spend it any way you like.  If you have specific issues (such as your schedule/availability), you should find someone that willing to accommodate you.  This kind of information is difficult to come by in the reviews.

8pm seems a bit late but there are restaurants that are opened late.  You didn't say which restaurant and if she knew which one.  That might have influenced her decision on when to check with you.

Bob

Hi sweetie,
I can't figure what you did wrong.  When I am continously emailing with a client, I like to have some kind of verbal communication also, to ensure our personalities click.  It seems that every time you tried to call, her phone went to voicemail.  The only thing I can think of, is that she doesn't answer her own phones, and emails.  I had this happen with me when I was with a phone lady.  Whenever there was a conflict of intrest between the two of us, it seemed my calls would slow down, until one day I was told the truth.  I apparently was "out of town", "sick", or some other lame excuse.  She would typically refer a friend, but if this girl is no longer working for that lady, she may have a vendetta; and want to give this girl a bad rep. Maybe you should have back up next time, it sux that you missed out on your dinner though.

I had a similar experience in August in LV with a provider, whom I won't mention by name.  She kept cancelling, changing,(ex husband, friend, lost cell phone) then finally, that time of the month arrived.  It sucks, but I don't think you did anything wrong.

and all that cancelling and moving around appointments, it sounds like she really tried to make it work for you(that is part of our job) but if her reviews are steller,gents think she is a great time to be had. We cannot be "Oncall" for just you. I know that I have to look good, be in a great mood and not feel rushed at the last minute to meet with a new friend. She lost money from you and maybe a repeat friend, but a friend that has to cancel so much and we have to re aggrange everything for you may not be her style of business. There are many ladies here that can meet with you at a "drop of a hat" so you have many to choose from. We get so many many "pretend, wannabe type clients" that it sounds like she may of taken you for a time waster. I dealt with quite a few when I first entered the business and do not deal with that action from a first time client. Repeat clients are given a higher priority(usually) by the ladies. I would call this a "No fault".I am sure you will have better luck next time if you keep to your assigned appointment and no "unexpected relatives". Hugs,Devin 38GG Taylor

You did nothing wrong that I can see except try to deal with a flake.  Had a similar no show with a well reviewed provide during my last trip.  If anything, it taught me that you need to book multiple providers and then enjoy the company of the one who does actually show up.  And as far as the suggestion of sending somebody a deposit, you would be better served just opening your window and tossing the money into the street!

Some girls hate that. Right or wrong on her part, sometimes it is what it is.  That is all i really question about what you did.  Good luck next time.

appointments and then blow you off if a better offer comes by? I do think gents should look into some ladies that can do last minute appointments if they are afraid of the "one" being a flake, but why choose her in the first place? Have you booked multiple providers and had more than one confirm? How do you handel that? Most ladies would add you to a "no show/time waster" list.Do you make up an excuse and just lie or do you tell the lady the truth about your multiple bookings? I have found that telling the truth as to why I have to cancel is the best policy and often the gents make another appointment to meet me. I used to try to get away with excuses but it is much easier and kind to tell the truth.As for deposits, you must deal with some pretty lowlife hustler type of providers, if you have been ripped off that much. I have always sent back a deposit if I had to cancel.It is wrong to steal. Maybe you should look into finding a better class of lady using the TER search. It sounds like you do not have a good time with this way of meeting providers The gent that started this post did change his appointment time more than once and had "unexpected relatives" show up, causing even more havic for a provider trying to keep an appointment with him. I do think that most well known TER ladies do their best to keep appointments open for those who make them,but she cannot change her whole daily routinue several times for one gent. Just as you seem bitter and frustrated, we too have to give up sometime with gents who cannot keep an appointment(for the first, second, third etc time they change it). Amps and escort services and even SWs can help a gent out if he is that pressed for time and cannot keep an appointment. Indies rule though

I recently heard a "story" about a no show, ends up that the hobbyist was bullshittin his ass off to try to make the girls look bad.  I may keep something in the vault of my memory just in case, but unless you know the truth, really, it means nothing.

I say cross her off the your list of want to see, and move on.  All the girls are not like that.