I had an appt last night with hot petite Carly visiting from
Cali and I asked her several times to confirm an appt.
I hit this response " look don't rush me I'm driving"
She was the one that requested me to confirm the day before
And I told her bc of that attitude I didn't want to see her.
She calls me an a**hole and I return the favor.
Is it too much to ask to reply nicely?
How would the other providers respond to this?
Thanks

If she is driving over from Cali (a couple hundred miles, 4-5 hours on the road and $50 worth of gas) and you canceled on her...no wonder she was pissed at you.

Not only that, she shouldn't have replied at all because it is neither safe nor legal in Cali or Nevada to use a handheld cell phone or to text while driving. So she may have been dealing with that issue. However, she could have worded it better and she could have pulled over.

Gray area all around, but I really don't think you should have cancelled because she was making the trip. From what I gather. She wasn't already here.

Aww, maybe she was just having a bad day.
But I would have responded totally different.
It makes me feel good and confident when a guy follows up like that.
I would rather you contact me to confirm.
So I do not think you did anything wrong by confirming with her.

Sorry things did not work out though.  
Maybe try to patch things with her.  
If not I would be more than happy to see you.
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I always try my best to be VERY nice . Yes I am suppose to be nice and respectful ........as long as you are treating me the same.

Now with that said - It can happen at times because I am under a certain stress , maybe I was short with someone and they just thought I was being rude.
but I would NEVER name call someone
 
So what do I mean stress - like driving ( as you are not suppose to really talk on the phone while driving and distract your self from the road )
Or geting ready for an appointment and I don't want to be late  and I am rushing and in a hurry .

BUT with that said - I never answer the phone while driving.
BUT I do make it clear to a client - If I don't answer my phone , please leave a message.  Not to worry I get my messages and I will get back to you to reconfirm as soon as I am free.

I don't like answering my phone while I am getting ready for a meeting. but sometimes I must because I am waiting on a client to confirm the appointment.
but then the person calling isn't who I thought .
Maybe it is someone asking about an appointment for next month . I don't have the time to talk.
I try to explain that I am busy now getting ready and if we can talk another time .
Sometimes guys are just not getting it and still want to  "just ask a few quick questions "
I dont get rude , but maybe my voice "sounded rude" ( because I am rushing )  saying - "I am really sorry but I don't have time for this now , can we talk tomorrow during the day. I just don't want to be late "
Then I hear click the person hung up. Ok cool by me .
If the person doesn't understand where I am coming from ,that's his problem.
But I am not going to name call him.

Now I am lucky I don't really have much in my life that stresses me out.
But most probably have more stress - Kids ,Husbands ,Boy Friends , Family , other issues ect ect

While what happened with that provider would have never happened with me ....... because I wouldn't be answering my phone while driving.
BUT lets for a moment - give her the benefit of the doubt.
Maybe she was driving . She kept getting all kinds of phone calls. business and personal.
She is trying to focus on her driving, now at this point a bit ( or very ) aggravated from all the phone calls ..........now while that isn't your fault , after all we are human.
So you call at the worst possible time ever , under stress she just says -
" look don't rush me I'm driving"
Maybe at that moment she even thought you were someone else because your area code is the same area code of a guy she is suppose to meet that day - and he kept calling..  
Who knows - All types of things happen to people when they are under stress.

Personally I think both of you handled it wrong.
BTW was this talking over the phone ...... or text ??

If text , just another reason why I am against texting.

If text - You just should have text her that your confirming the meeting and text room info.
Even if she texts you back - " look don't rush me I'm driving"
You should have thought , Oh ok it is not a good idea to drive and text , I don't want her to feel she has to text me while driving .......
So I would have text back - I am sorry didn't know you were driving  , I understand it isn't a good idea to drive and text. I just want to confirm our meeting .
You don't have to text me back right now , Just as soon as you stop or get here please call or text to confirm our meeting . Looking forward to see you soon.

I am sure if the text ( or conversation ) went something like that ........... All this would have never happened.

Now I think time to kiss and make up

Hope this helps
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xoxo CindySpice
 

Great comment!
Really good points.
Cindy luvie I totally agree.
They should kiss and make up!

I try to never lash my stress on to my client...
Maybe she was driving and phone kept ringing and that stressed her out...maybe she was PMSing...who knows?
Sometime we just have a bad day..we are still human BUT always be nice to your client especially the one who are trying to confirm an apt...it's in our best interest to be courteous before during and after!
Should I start seminar for escort about top notch customer service? I would be pretty good at that!
;p
Hehe!

I think you made the right move cancelling. You know she was pissed at you already, it probably wouldn't have gone well. She fucked up. Most providers have the sense to be nice even if they dislike you, lol.

she wasn't coming just for me
saw her ad and responded
thought she was flying
didn't know she was driving
told me to confirm during daytime

Most providers will resond to texts in route.  These who don't are not outlaws.  You are out of line.